Going from 1 to 2 kids - how does it affect your social life?

I have 2 that are 1 & 2 only 12 months apart

It’s extremely difficult for me to go anywhere, I have one who can hardly walk and another who is sprinting away from me at parks but just to get out of the house is hard in itself, and if they both are sick it’s a nightmare for getting any sleep if one is sleeping the other is crying and vice versa it’s been a lot extra for me to go anywhere because if one is crying and I take him out of wagon the other starts screaming wanting out - I have noticed its harder to find people to watch them because they can be a handful and usually somebody will only watch them if it’s like my mom and sister together.

However, this time where it’s more “difficult” is temporary and seeing them starting to play together or being kind to one another is worth all the stress/ being home more often.

I don’t have any family close by other than my mom and sister. But yes. Having two kids feels like i have 20. There’s no time for anything else. My husband works so they’re entirely my responsibility and it’s exhausting. I had also gotten my life back (sort of?) after my 1st - went to concerts, out with friends, etc. Now I’m happy to get three hours of uninterrupted sleep 🤣

I feel this so much 🤣 sleep no longer exist and it’s almost worst now than when they were newborns between sickness/ sleep regression/ teething if one is sleeping the other won’t be so it’s a never ending cycle

I have 2 kids and work full time. I have mom friends and do mom activities but most socializing now happens at kids birthday parties. I don’t have hobbies or free time anymore and definitely do not go to concerts. Sometimes I go to brunch or lunch with friends. But I’ve always been the organizer and planner of activities among my friends so I just don’t have the energy to do that right now.

thank you for such a realistic response girl. The lack of sleep right now is STRESSING ME OUT 😭My logic was that if I get all the sleepless nights out the way by having them slightly closer together then I can get some sanity back😂
The leaving the house with 2 sounds like an extreme sport 😂.. Hmm😬😬🙁but as you said, them playing together is worth it 🥰

oh no.. That's exactly my fear😬... I'm so torn. How do other women do it with 2+ kids?! I wonder if that's also a contributing factor to women who've decided to be '1 & done'?? 😬

haha 🤣 kinda.. Tbh, it picked up more once I had my daughter which is strange.. I've got a few mum friends & a group chat with around 30 mum friends who met through a local group so we've done a few things together even roller skating party recently 😂

I think if you can manage that much of a social life with one you should be ok with 2. Just leave the kids with dad and go do your roller skate nights etc.