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No heartbeat at 20 weeks

We went for our 20 week scan yesterday and found out our baby girl had no heartbeat . Said she was measuring 14 weeks 4 days ( bit confused as we had a private gender scan at 16 weeks and there was a heartbeat and everything) i have to go into hospital tomorrow to have her surgically removed as my body hasn't let her go . I dont why I'm posting on here i just don't know wt to do or anything I feel so shit and can't stop crying .

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I’m so sorry this has happened to you sending u lots of love & healing 🩷

Oh my gosh honey I am so unbelievably sorry to read this. It’s absolutely devastating and many in this group have been through similar heartbreak. Take comfort in the fact that you are not alone but unfortunately I wish I had something to say that will make you feel better.

Best advice is to ride the emotions, don’t mask it and take time to grieve this loss and it will get easier to deal with in time.

I wasn’t as far along as you but it was horrific and the surgery just made it feel so real.

I am pleased to say that I am now sat with my rainbow baby so believe miracles will come from this trauma but always here if you need a chat xx

Thankyou xx

@Kate 🌈 Thanks I just feel so numb atm and can't stop crying cos everything is setting me off . I have also got two young boys that I've had to explain to so been very difficult cxx

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Thanks