push present - do you think my partner is secretly upset?

i just like to preface this by saying i never expected a push present. he got me one for my first and i didn’t even know they were a thing, it was something he wanted to do. with our first, he got my a silver necklace with an infinity symbol. this time round he said he was getting me another push present, but couldn’t order it until after baby was born.

on to my guilt and feeling bad, the push present arrives today and he hands it to me and it’s a gold bracelet with all of our birth stones (mine, partners, first borns and second borns). he says “i ordered silver, i don’t know why it’s come in gold” even the cardboard it was on said “sterling silver”. he asks if i like it and i say yes, but part of this was a lie bcos i HATE gold. he then goes and does something and when he comes back, i say “well if you ordered silver, maybe you could message the seller and get them to rectify it as it’s their mistake?” and he goes “yeah i can do that, i take it you don’t like it then?” i then burst into tears, saying how i love the concept of the birthstones but i just hate gold but i feel bad that i don’t like it, he hugs me and says he knows i don’t like gold that’s why he ordered silver. he’s going to message the seller on etsy. all my jewellery is silver, i just don’t like gold on me, i have an olive complexion and silver looks nicer on me. he’s gone to get a shower and now im worried that ive hurt my partners feelings, i told him im so grateful etc but i just don’t like the gold. am i horrible person? does anyone think my partner may secretly be hurt and upset by me not liking the gold?

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It’s not his fault. It’s not your fault either. He didn’t get what he ordered. It’s simple as that. So, that’s the makers responsibility, the shop on Etsy that made that for him. Send it back, ask for the right thing. They may have had a big rush order and so did a simple mistake. It’s a human run business so there’ll be human made mistakes and that happens all the time.
Take photos- email them. Asap. In a way he’s disappointed as well.

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He ordered silver for a reason! It's fine for you to prefer silver and he should get what he ordered.

This is no big deal and I'm sure the Etsy seller will sort it out as it wasn't what was ordered.

I feel like the hormones and sleep deprivation are making this a bigger thing than it needs to be!

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you shouldn't feel bad that you don't like it and he shouldn't feel bad it came gold instead of silver. as long as you weren't accusing and ungrateful i don't see why he would be upset you didn't like it as he knows you don't like gold. believe me, i get the hormones being all out of whack which is probably why it's such an emotional event. from what you said he said he sounded like he was genuine but i would just talk to him. accidents happen but it was a really sweet gesture, i just hope you told him that you love the thought and thank you. it's probably something that could have been lighthearted and made a joke like its funny it says sterling silver but you got gold and just trade it in, but i get hormones are probably all over the place. it's not the end of the world you guys both seem to have handled it well enough.

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No I think both of yall are super sweet. And I don’t think either one is hurt. If anything he’s probably sad that his order wasn’t correct for you and he’s just sad for you. But I think yall both did well and you most definitely did not hurt his feelings. I think you’re still just all in your hormones and that’s okay

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You liked his gift just not the sellers mistake, why would he be upset?

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thank you all, i’m two weeks postpartum today so you’re right my hormones are absolutely whack, i adore and love my partner and am also a huge people pleaser, so being open and telling him i didn’t like the gold just created this huge wave of guilt, and i got all in my head about whether he was secretly upset with me or not. it’s neither ones fault, and my head created it to be a bigger thing than it needs to be. he doesn’t know how much i’m overthinking this, he’s just trying to message the seller on etsy and to him it’s probably no big deal and he’ll just sort it, but i adore my partner and am so grateful for everything he does for me that i wouldn’t ever want to come across as ungrateful or hurt his feelings in the slightest. not even mad at the etsy seller as, like stated, mistakes happen accidents happen, but i just was so worried about my partners feelings x

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Aww lovely I’m not sure when your bubba was born but this is exactly the kind of thing I’d cry about with baby blues that on a normal day wouldn’t upset me. I don’t think your partner is upset with you he’s probably just annoyed they messed up the order and he will be glad you were honest!

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You did the right thing because you’re going to wear it once it comes back in silver!

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It sounds to me like he bought you the silver because he knew you didn’t like the gold. He seems very aware of what you do and don’t like. He was leaving it respectfully in your hands on the chance that you did want to keep the gold. I don’t think he is upset. It’s not personally and it sounds like you loved the gift but not the gold part. I think you need to take it easy on yourself. And if you’re worried you can reassure him you love the gift, that you’re just not a gold girl and how you appreciate it and can’t wait to see the one he initially ordered for you.

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Defo think your hormones are playing with you, he probably thinks nothing of it. If he had genuinely ordered gold I would have said he may have been a little upset but he knows you don’t and didn’t order it so no problem

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He sounds super understanding! I am the same way I hate gold and only have silver jewelry

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Doesn’t sound like he’s upset.. he ordered you silver, and they’ve sent the wrong one.. not his fault and he knows you don’t like gold. Hope you manage to get the right one x

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What a lovely gift which he ordered in silver as he knows that is your colour 🤍 hopefully he can get it changed for you both. Don't feel guilty postpartum is an emotional time, and by the sounds of it he is very supportive and glad you were honest xx

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He sounds lovely and you shouldn't feel guilty because it sounds like you've handled it diplomatically. I assume you've recently given birth so PHEWWW your hormones must be 💯💯💯 try not to feel guilty. It's a lovely gift and you'll get so much more wear from it if it is in silver.

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He knew you would prefer silver and he ordered silver, just a mistake by the seller. I don't think you've hurt his feelings, and I don't think he'll be hurt if you ask him to contact the seller about the mistake.

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