Unhappy with partner but weeks away from having baby
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I'm sorry you're going through this. I would just say if there's any chance of you becoming a single mum is give her just your surname, it makes life easier when your name match and I'm having to fight for this. How long have you been feeling like this? Is there any chance your hormones could be adding to it? I know you shouldn't say that to a pregnant lady please don't kill me but I lost my spark completely by my third trimester and was so unhappy and irritable in just about every possible situation at some stage. Also you've said he'd not meeting your emotional needs, have you tried communicating that and explaining what you need from him? Sometimes finding out what each of you feels the other one could do to better support each other can be a start to making a big difference.
I'm not saying suck it up but I would recommend waiting it out a little bit. The start is so hard and you might be thankful for any help he can give with the baby when she first arrives and it gives you chance to make a plan and think through options. You've said you're not unsafe and I know being unhappy sucks but you're better having a secure house to bring a newborn home to than everything already being up in the air and there could be a wait list for housing too. Give yourself time to check what benefits/government assistance you'd be eligible for as a single mum and things like that too. If you're safe i would say now isn't the time to he making a big jump until things settle down, you start to get into the rhythm of motherhood and know what sort of support and options you can get. I'm a single mum and its the hardest and most rewarding thing in the world and I wish you good luck, happiness and a safe straight forward birth no matter what you do 🩷
Can you talk to him about how you feel? Bottling it up won't help. You're going through a major change in life with a lot of hormones so being able to talk to your partner is very important. It may also be worth mentioning your feelings to your midwife as they can offer support and should be able to refer you to support if you do choose to leave or your home situation changes. Best of luck sweetie.
Absolutely do what is best for you as that will be best for you both. Have you spoken about your needs with him?
Hey, just want to mention that the first year after having a baby is meant to be hardest in a relationship. So if you’re having issues before baby is born it would get even harder once she’s here. It would be worth trying to sort out any probably issues first as exhaustion, lack of sleep and hormones can make problems seem even bigger. The last thing you need when you’ve got a tiny baby to look after is an unsupportive partner and constant arguments. You and baby deserve better than that. If you don’t think it’s going to work out then maybe being housed by the council wouldn’t be the worst thing? Hope you can sort it out :)
…hm…idk what a council. Is that like a homeless shelter? Do they have Women and children shelters? Those might be safer than homeless. Will this guy talk to you about your unhappiness?