Why does my baby keep running away from me?

I am raising my 19 month old with my parents. I tend to be the strict one & my parents the pampering one, or I make him do things that he doesn’t like to do like brushing teeth. And sometimes when it all gets too overwhelming I yell at him or am mad at him.
He keeps running away from me, to my parents. He prefers my parents over me, which really hurts me. Does my baby hate me? Is he never going to like me?

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I know how that feels, and it's not great. My daughter was like that for a while l.
Maybe you can have some fun time with him, so he knows you're not always strict? And maybe try not to yell too much?

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Yup:( just hate the whole single parenting thing. I feel Im always angry.

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I don't live you my parents but my children adore them, they give them what they want and have endless fun with minimal rules 😂 grandparents are supposed to be fun, parents are supposed to have the boundaries :) my daughter will always run to grandma but when it comes to her needing something or being sad she always comes back to me because she feels safe :) your little one is probably the same:)

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Would it help for your parents to do some of the parenting stuff , not just fun stuff, to help you out? What do your parents do when he runs to them? That sounds shit, I’m really sorry to hear - it must be really hard

I have come to come to learn that telling off a toddler ends in her laughter at me or doing it more so I save my energy. I am always connect and redirect now… unless she is throwing herself on the dog and risking a bite - that gets a firm no 🫠

Hope it gets better for you soon x

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We were on holiday for 3 weeks recently in a home that was not baby proofed... I was the one constantly watching to make sure he does not harm himself...he did start to push me away which was a little hurtful but I think it's very normal! They want to assert their independence

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Is it just my husband that does this? He is able to work from home via his computer and in the mornings and evenings he is on there doing his job. When he is done for the day he tends to stay in the room and either play video games or watch something. He will occasionally come out and play with the girls for a few minutes and that’s it but when I really need him he says he is busy. My daughters are both 1 year old now and I am just wondering how much involvement should he have with them now?
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