Co-sleeping for 3 nights

Hey everyone, I’m in a bit of a muddle.. so me being my unprepared self has left it really last minute to get my sons cot. It’s coming on Tuesday/Wednesday.. we went away and my son who’s 5 months slept in a travel cot and he had a lot of space we’ve come home, and he’s no longer settled in his crib.. it is smaller than the travel cot and he doesn’t have as much space to stretch his arms. Last night he was very fussy and woke up where he’s been sleeping through since he was about 3 and a half months. I’ve gone to put him to bed tonight and as soon as I put him in he just started crying and fussing. Tried for about 10 mins as soon as I picked him and put him in my bed he went straight back to sleep! My issue is I don’t want him to get used to sleeping next to me as I want him to sleep in his own bed! I’m still struggling 9 years later to get my daughter to sleep in her own bed for a whole night and really don’t want to have to do it again 😂😂.. should I just co-sleep for the next few nights or should I just resign myself to lots of fussing and being up majority of the night?

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Baby bouncer

So my LO has reached the weight limit for her bouncer which I pop her in when I’m in the bath of shower… any one know of any that can hold larger weight?

Overwhelming MIL

Hi ladies, just wondering if any of you have had to deal with/have any advice for an overwhelming MIL. For context, she lives 5 mins away whilst all my family love 3.5 hours away so we barely see them.

Ever since I've gotten pregnant my MIL has been more overwhelming than usual, (we have had run ins in the past due to crossed boundaries). She's gotten into the habit of saying "my baby" so things like "How's my baby?" "I bought this for my baby?" "When my baby is here" and I find it really uncomfortable.

We've tried correcting her but she just laughs it off and says "just wait until shes here, you'll see, she'll be my baby" and it worries me that when baby is here (due September) I will be at my most vulnerable and won't be able to deal with this behaviour.

My husband is lovely and he tries his best but whenever we set boundaries, it's almost as if she pushes to try and break them on purpose. Any advice on how to manage this? Or how to make life more bearable? There have been a few other red flags from her (purposely coming near me when she smokes, demanding every scan photo etc) but I don't want to/have the energy to cause arguments...help!

Friendships after a baby

Hi. I hope no-one minds me asking on here, I just don't know what to do.
I had a close work colleague/friend that I would tell everything too (she helped me a lot with my mental health when we were struggling to conceive) We've been work colleagues for a couple of years but really good friends for the last year or so (we spent a lot of time doing walks/coffees etc last year)
However since having my baby she's gone very quiet (she has got some personal things going on as well and she has always been terrible at replying to any messages)
Since being on maternity, I've messaged to check on her, I'm mentioned about meeting up and even suggested some dates but nothing. My husband thinks I should just draw a line in the sand as I've been making all the effort and getting nothing in return. I don't want to force her to be my friend. It upsets me a lot that she doesn't contact me as I thought we were close.
I guess my question is, do I give her longer? If not, do I message to explain and not just go radiosilent.
I'm a very conscientious person and I overthink a lot of things but surely if she is just busy with life I should give her a reason as to why I stopped messaging her??

Thank you if you've read this far. My mental health is not great right now and this upsets me greatly that I think I've lost my closest friend.

Upset

I have made posts on here few times about how my now 12 week old baby sleeps rubbish at night, wakes every 3 hours for a feed and inbetween he cries from gas and fidgets. My partner works 4am shifts during the week and sleeps in our 2nd bedroom (which will eventually be nursery) then on weekends he gives me 2 nights off and he does the night shifts. This is the 2nd time now since he’s done the night shift where my baby literally has gone 7/8 hours without waking… HOW?!! He literally could NEVER with me. He was last fed around 7:15pm and didn’t wake until 3am and has just woke 7am for feeds, I’m happy my boyfriend got sleep but genuinely I wake up everyday from no sleep, I wake every hour or so normally… I’m actually just feeling pissed off … what was different last night? Am I doing something wrong? Could it be that he didn’t really nap yesterday evening? Or I fed him a couple of bottles during the day we’re 180ml instead of 150ml. I really don’t know.

Signs of Autism

Last year while on the beach, a woman had a sideways remark about my toddler having Autism

I had said “he wasn’t even evaluated or diagnosed”

She said “oh wait, he will be for sure”

This came from his gravitation to the ocean. She claims children with autism are obsessed with water.

I’ve never heard of that personally. I have a family member with autism who HATED water and it took years of therapy to get them to tolerate water for bathing or showering.

Tonight I visited with my mother and she made a remark about my child “twirling/spinning” in circles while playing outside and then going towards the hose to play with the water. She had said “wow! (Child’s name) really enjoys water don’t they?

Should I be concerned or getting an evaluation or seeking a developmental pediatrician visit?

I’m really at a loss. Child is two and a half going on three years old.

Pacifier for Newborns

What do you all think about giving a pacifier to a newborn? If anyone can share their experience, I’d be super thankful!