Feel like I’m failing

Ok so I just need to come here and vent. I have a 5m old son and he has fallen off our bed twice in a week. I feel like a horrible mother. It happened so fast. Some say it happens and other ridicule me about it. I feel like I’m failing keeping him safe. Mind you we do stay in an extended hotel and we don’t have much space for a play pen or anything a funds or about nothing so I can’t get him a play mat. Idk what to do

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I would be either making him a floor bed or moving the mattress onto the floor.

Can you tuck a pillow under the fitted sheet? I know my son is 4mons and rolls all over our bed. I lay him usually between two pillows that are under our comforter when I am folding laundry to keep him from rolling off the edges.

I’ve never even thought of that!! He’s moving around really good and it feels like sometimes I can’t do anything unless he is napping. I do have a large blanket. I could put under the fitted sheet to try to keep him from going over the edge. Thank you.

You are very welcome! It’s trial and error in parenthood! I hope it helps

You’re not a horrible mother for that. My 5.5-6 month old started crawling and crawled off the bed twice in one day. Then again the next day. Had a bruise on his lil head and everything. I felt horrible about it. But accidents happen!

What I did, before I got my bedside gate things put up, I was just putting a bunch of pillows on the floor all around the bed to break his fall and never leaving him on the bed alone without my FULL attention.

You're not failing, but I would definitely stop putting him on the bed unless you are literally sitting with him. The pillow method mentioned above may work for a while, but soon he will be able to roll/crawl over pillows. My son is almost 7 months and can get over a pillow no problem. I would probably make a little floor bed for him to play on if you're not right next to him so that there's no risk of him falling.

You’re not failing, I know some doctors whose babies have fall. It happens to everyone and my daughter fell more times than I can remember. Babies are resilient. Now I would try your best to prevent it but that’s all you can do. I would try to let him play on the floor and if he’s sleeping on the bed then pile pillows on the edge and put him in the middle so he has room to roll without knocking the pillows off. I would also just keep an eye out for things on offer pages. A lot of people will get rid of stuff for free or close to nothing. I actually just sold a play pen last month for 5$ because I didn’t need it and someone did. But as long as you’re doing your best, you’re doing great.

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Is it bad of me to think this or no?

My husband has been abroad for work (1 day and exploring for 1 day) for 2 and a half days which means I’ve had both kids (1 year and 4 year old) for 2 and a half days plus cooking, cleaning, taking them to clubs, bedtimes!
He came home late afternoon and said I’m so tired, I just need to chill. I said can you wash up whilst I sort kids dinner out, he said he’ll do it later which means he won’t do it and I’ll end up doing it so I said no do it now please otherwise I’ll end up doing it and he said well you have been home and I’ve been away so you’ve just been relaxing.
Don’t know what planet he is on but having the kids alone for 2.5 days is not relaxing. I was stressed!

When he was away, I did miss him and wanted him to come back but now he’s back, I want him to go away again😂
Is that bad?

Really bothered by this

A friend posted this and it really bothers me because that is exactly how she parents her kid, and it's rather unfortunate because when our kids hang out together, her kid has a meltdown at least 5x within an hour. We have know them for years and it's only gotten worse. My kids will concede to hers, because they don't want to see their friend crying, but it sucks because they give up so much of their toys and enjoyment to keep the peace. We aren't hanging out as much anymore but it's rather sad to think she doesn't intervene more in her child tantrums and just let's it slide

Is this normal

Let’s say you’re at a softplay with your 2 year old, and some friends & their toddlers.
You buy your 2 year old a kids meal - chicken nuggets, beans, and chips. They’re very happy with it and have almost eaten it all.
They’re sat at the table, fork in hand, consistently eating, and have one chicken nugget left.
Your adult friend comes over from behind you, picks up the last chicken nugget, and eats it.
There was no indication that your child wasn’t going to eat it, and they didn’t ask. They just took it with no warning and ate it right in front of you and your toddler.
How you reacting?

Are these men ok?

I get so sad seeing all the posts on here daily about women dealing with partners who are treating them horribly. I know it seems over represented because those of us with great partners don’t need to write posts asking for help, but I really hope most of us don’t have these kinds of men in our lives!

I tell my husband about these posts I see sometimes and he’s even shocked by some of the things these guys say/do.

Nobody’s perfect, and every relationship takes work. And becoming parents is a stress test unlike any other for sure, but seeing how many women get stuck in these relationships with men who aren’t interested in being better is so so sad😞

But is/was your partner helpful, loving, and supportive during your pregnancy/PP/etc? Was he a wonderful person but changed for the worst after becoming a parent? Has he put effort into becoming the partner you need him to be, even if he struggles?

Pouches

I’m not one of those mums who stand in the kitchen making every meal from scratch and batches of healthy snacks as I simply do not have time with other children and soon back to a full time job, but I do try give my weaning baby part of what we eat at meal times and will throw something healthy together if what we eat isn’t suitable. However, I do have some pouches in for convenience or a last resort. I’ve only used these a few times in the space of two months but she absolutely LOVES them. She will scream for more, get excited when she sees the pouch and will literally eat the whole thing. She’s underweight so this is massive for me seeing her eat so well, but the guilt is getting to me a bit! Anybody else like a little pouch every now and then and can make me feel a little better about giving her them😅

Friends with shitty husbands

Does anyone have a close friend with a shittv husband?

My best friend of 14years married her high school sweetheart (minus the sweetheart.) He was always a POS growing up, had an on and off relationship and eventually from what I was told, they sorted their shit out and got married. I moved countries and her and I drifted apart for a while so I didn't know too much about what their relationship was like but assumed all was well since her social media alluded to that.

We both had babies within a year of each other, she had hers first and when she gave birth I found out I was pregnant. I had a rough pregnancy and we weren't in contact much but after my LO was born we spoke a lot. This is when I found out that she was struggling with PPD etc. She opened up about how useless her husband is, I would go as far as to say abusive. She's a SAHM who basically does absolutely evervthing & is being financially abused She's completelv touched out and is about to have a second child in a week.

I absolutelv cannot stand her husband. I hate how he treats her. I hate to hear about him. She posted on social media all the time about how lucky she is to have him as a husband and father to her babies yet cries to me on the phone in private about what really goes on.
I'm at a point now where I want to tell her that I don't want to hear about it anymore. I feel guilty that she's going through this but she's also allowing it to continue in a sense. I'm so emotionally exhausted with her problems and just want to shake her.

How do you/would you navigate this situation?