Meltdowns

Has anyone else child levelled up their tantrums? My daughter is having full on meltdowns at everything this past week, to the point she’s nearly making herself sick. I cannot physically get her in her car seat, she pulls my hair out and gets her self so worked up. Same with the bath, which she usually loves. It’s literally a battle, with her in a state trying to climb out, clawing at me. She’s also started being quite needy.

I’m a pretty calm mum (on the outside lol) and I’ve tried everything but she’s beyond reasoning with, please please give me some tips on how you calm your toddler down. We are both stressed out 😂

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I have no tips but my god can I relate this week. Every bath/bedtime this week has been hell, full blown meltdowns that will last an hour plus and nothing works to calm her down. Hitting, kicking, biting. Just praying she calms down a bit soon 🙏

I can absolutely relate, it’s gone from 0 to 100 so quickly!
We’ve had meltdowns over him only wanting one shoe on, him dropping a piece of food, his giraffe not standing up and his ball rolling 😂 🤦🏻‍♀️ he doesn’t want my help, doesn’t want to be held nor left alone. If I do it wrong, he will hit. I’ll say don’t hit mommy and it makes him worse. He doesn’t know what he wants in these situations so I just sit at his level, not looking at him and he’ll calm down soon(ish) after. I think he just needs to know I’m there in that moment for whatever he wants, when he’s ready if that makes sense.

With bath time, I have found if I prepare the bath first and then take him in to see, he’ll let me undress him in the bathroom and is more willing to get in. (I’d undress him in his bedroom usually) x

Yeah I'm feeling it too. It's worrying sometimes. But it's the personality change that gets me. It breaks my heart him saying " can't do it " and getting really upset at things like lego, and making me do his play instead of him. I feel like he's broken at the mo :( sometimes doesn't wanna go out, albeit just recovered from ear and throat infection but I'd of thought he'd be itching to go out. Maybe this is a pivotal milestone for personality changes or something, i hear defiance is a massive thing for 2.5 year olds?

Were the same but have overcome some things, give longer to get in the car, she now climbs into the car and into her car seat herself, after sitting on all the seats in the car, bloody frustrating but it’s not a full on fight each time anymore. Baths she’s hated for ages and is so scared of having her hair washed, I recently did baths with the light off but door open so it’s light but not bathroom light light, put glowsticks in the bath, we play games about splashing each other and for the last 3 days she’s actually wanted a bath! Making a joke of every situation (hard as it may be) does help, for instance I asked her to brush her teeth yesterday, she wanted to put the toothpaste on herself (I had already given her the toothpaste to do this) she full on had a melt down, on the floor, threw the toothbrush and threw the toothpaste near a toy, I told her to pick it up quick before the toy ate it, laughed and she laughed and then went to get it.

Glad to see we are not alone, had so many challenges this week with tranttums, throwing, hitting just been generally grumpy and super clingy to me.

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Really bothered by this

A friend posted this and it really bothers me because that is exactly how she parents her kid, and it's rather unfortunate because when our kids hang out together, her kid has a meltdown at least 5x within an hour. We have know them for years and it's only gotten worse. My kids will concede to hers, because they don't want to see their friend crying, but it sucks because they give up so much of their toys and enjoyment to keep the peace. We aren't hanging out as much anymore but it's rather sad to think she doesn't intervene more in her child tantrums and just let's it slide

Is this normal

Let’s say you’re at a softplay with your 2 year old, and some friends & their toddlers.
You buy your 2 year old a kids meal - chicken nuggets, beans, and chips. They’re very happy with it and have almost eaten it all.
They’re sat at the table, fork in hand, consistently eating, and have one chicken nugget left.
Your adult friend comes over from behind you, picks up the last chicken nugget, and eats it.
There was no indication that your child wasn’t going to eat it, and they didn’t ask. They just took it with no warning and ate it right in front of you and your toddler.
How you reacting?

Are these men ok?

I get so sad seeing all the posts on here daily about women dealing with partners who are treating them horribly. I know it seems over represented because those of us with great partners don’t need to write posts asking for help, but I really hope most of us don’t have these kinds of men in our lives!

I tell my husband about these posts I see sometimes and he’s even shocked by some of the things these guys say/do.

Nobody’s perfect, and every relationship takes work. And becoming parents is a stress test unlike any other for sure, but seeing how many women get stuck in these relationships with men who aren’t interested in being better is so so sad😞

But is/was your partner helpful, loving, and supportive during your pregnancy/PP/etc? Was he a wonderful person but changed for the worst after becoming a parent? Has he put effort into becoming the partner you need him to be, even if he struggles?

Pouches

I’m not one of those mums who stand in the kitchen making every meal from scratch and batches of healthy snacks as I simply do not have time with other children and soon back to a full time job, but I do try give my weaning baby part of what we eat at meal times and will throw something healthy together if what we eat isn’t suitable. However, I do have some pouches in for convenience or a last resort. I’ve only used these a few times in the space of two months but she absolutely LOVES them. She will scream for more, get excited when she sees the pouch and will literally eat the whole thing. She’s underweight so this is massive for me seeing her eat so well, but the guilt is getting to me a bit! Anybody else like a little pouch every now and then and can make me feel a little better about giving her them😅

Friends with shitty husbands

Does anyone have a close friend with a shittv husband?

My best friend of 14years married her high school sweetheart (minus the sweetheart.) He was always a POS growing up, had an on and off relationship and eventually from what I was told, they sorted their shit out and got married. I moved countries and her and I drifted apart for a while so I didn't know too much about what their relationship was like but assumed all was well since her social media alluded to that.

We both had babies within a year of each other, she had hers first and when she gave birth I found out I was pregnant. I had a rough pregnancy and we weren't in contact much but after my LO was born we spoke a lot. This is when I found out that she was struggling with PPD etc. She opened up about how useless her husband is, I would go as far as to say abusive. She's a SAHM who basically does absolutely evervthing & is being financially abused She's completelv touched out and is about to have a second child in a week.

I absolutelv cannot stand her husband. I hate how he treats her. I hate to hear about him. She posted on social media all the time about how lucky she is to have him as a husband and father to her babies yet cries to me on the phone in private about what really goes on.
I'm at a point now where I want to tell her that I don't want to hear about it anymore. I feel guilty that she's going through this but she's also allowing it to continue in a sense. I'm so emotionally exhausted with her problems and just want to shake her.

How do you/would you navigate this situation?

Car issues

Idk if I’m in the wrong. I have a full time job. My husband takes care of the kids while I worked. Today was the day I was supposed to get us a car. But I couldn’t cause of the down payment. So now he’s texting me saying I’m wasting his day to be alone at Walmart so he can spend his tax return. I really want to say go ahead. Leave. Leave the kids and me alone. While you go out and spend money. While your at go ahead and buy urself your drugs and a bitch to go fuck.

Lucky I’m even thinking about him about the car situation if not I would’ve been buying me and the kids a car small enough for us!