Motivation

Does anybody else, particularly with a toddler, just have no motivation to prep for baby no.2? I feel awful that I’m not as prepared as I was for my first. I haven’t got a hospital bag packed for me or baby, I haven’t bought any new clothes for baby, but can’t find the time/energy to dig through my sons clothes for the neutral items we bought him to get them washed. The list just goes on of things I need to do, I’ve only got 9 weeks to go if I get to my due date, but even that isn’t making me motivated.

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I’m the same, this is my 3rd and I have a 2 year old and 6 year old.
We have all the big things like pram and Moses basket but have literally bought nothing else so far.
Still 10 weeks to go for me but absolute 0 motivation to get organised

I feel like that because of the exhaustion that comes with being pregnant with a toddler. When he's in bed, I just have no mental capacity to do or think. I made a list yesterday of what to do and il break it up into small bite size/manageable tasks week by week. Another thing is, all you really need is your bedside cot and some nappies. Everything else you can do once baby comes Xx hope you get some energy/ motivation.

I’m the same, I don’t have pretty much anything bought. The only saving grace is that they’re both boys so I can re-use most things.
I’m hoping that I get that nesting energy soon and will get everything done 😂

Same same! Too exhausted to think past the next couple of hours let alone next 12 weeks 😭

I have 11 weeks left, haven't got anything ready yet. Clothes are still in the attic, room is not even cleared let alone decorated, haven't thought about a hospital bag of anything like that. We have reusable nappies which I still need to look out and sanitise, I don't even know where the cot is, although we did buy a new mattress a month or two ago, and we'll need to look out the car seat and wash it all

I feel you, this is me! My boy js 17 months and honestly takes over all my time, energy and brain space every time I think about prepping for baby2 I totally shut down and feel so blurry!
Pregnancy with a toddler is HARD, my energy is zero!
Be kind to yourself, it’ll all work out! 🙏🏻

Mmm I just feel we’ve still got ages?! Hahaha. I am going to wash the car seat and the bouncer chair fabric when next best suits me- was going to yesterday but was raining. However I’ll leave all the clothes washing till I’m maybe 35 weeks, just incase comes early.

Then probably pack bag at like 37 weeks haha got loads of time!!

Girl it's hard enough just existing while pregnant with a toddler, I'm exhausted and have no energy to prepare anything else 😂

100% me

I feel this!
With a toddler is not easy!
Ive just washed all of babies clothes.. but haven’t packed bags etc yet.
I should really im just so nervous about going early 😂. But we will the motivation somewhere im
Sure! Xx

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Really bothered by this

A friend posted this and it really bothers me because that is exactly how she parents her kid, and it's rather unfortunate because when our kids hang out together, her kid has a meltdown at least 5x within an hour. We have know them for years and it's only gotten worse. My kids will concede to hers, because they don't want to see their friend crying, but it sucks because they give up so much of their toys and enjoyment to keep the peace. We aren't hanging out as much anymore but it's rather sad to think she doesn't intervene more in her child tantrums and just let's it slide

Is this normal

Let’s say you’re at a softplay with your 2 year old, and some friends & their toddlers.
You buy your 2 year old a kids meal - chicken nuggets, beans, and chips. They’re very happy with it and have almost eaten it all.
They’re sat at the table, fork in hand, consistently eating, and have one chicken nugget left.
Your adult friend comes over from behind you, picks up the last chicken nugget, and eats it.
There was no indication that your child wasn’t going to eat it, and they didn’t ask. They just took it with no warning and ate it right in front of you and your toddler.
How you reacting?

Are these men ok?

I get so sad seeing all the posts on here daily about women dealing with partners who are treating them horribly. I know it seems over represented because those of us with great partners don’t need to write posts asking for help, but I really hope most of us don’t have these kinds of men in our lives!

I tell my husband about these posts I see sometimes and he’s even shocked by some of the things these guys say/do.

Nobody’s perfect, and every relationship takes work. And becoming parents is a stress test unlike any other for sure, but seeing how many women get stuck in these relationships with men who aren’t interested in being better is so so sad😞

But is/was your partner helpful, loving, and supportive during your pregnancy/PP/etc? Was he a wonderful person but changed for the worst after becoming a parent? Has he put effort into becoming the partner you need him to be, even if he struggles?

Pouches

I’m not one of those mums who stand in the kitchen making every meal from scratch and batches of healthy snacks as I simply do not have time with other children and soon back to a full time job, but I do try give my weaning baby part of what we eat at meal times and will throw something healthy together if what we eat isn’t suitable. However, I do have some pouches in for convenience or a last resort. I’ve only used these a few times in the space of two months but she absolutely LOVES them. She will scream for more, get excited when she sees the pouch and will literally eat the whole thing. She’s underweight so this is massive for me seeing her eat so well, but the guilt is getting to me a bit! Anybody else like a little pouch every now and then and can make me feel a little better about giving her them😅

Friends with shitty husbands

Does anyone have a close friend with a shittv husband?

My best friend of 14years married her high school sweetheart (minus the sweetheart.) He was always a POS growing up, had an on and off relationship and eventually from what I was told, they sorted their shit out and got married. I moved countries and her and I drifted apart for a while so I didn't know too much about what their relationship was like but assumed all was well since her social media alluded to that.

We both had babies within a year of each other, she had hers first and when she gave birth I found out I was pregnant. I had a rough pregnancy and we weren't in contact much but after my LO was born we spoke a lot. This is when I found out that she was struggling with PPD etc. She opened up about how useless her husband is, I would go as far as to say abusive. She's a SAHM who basically does absolutely evervthing & is being financially abused She's completelv touched out and is about to have a second child in a week.

I absolutelv cannot stand her husband. I hate how he treats her. I hate to hear about him. She posted on social media all the time about how lucky she is to have him as a husband and father to her babies yet cries to me on the phone in private about what really goes on.
I'm at a point now where I want to tell her that I don't want to hear about it anymore. I feel guilty that she's going through this but she's also allowing it to continue in a sense. I'm so emotionally exhausted with her problems and just want to shake her.

How do you/would you navigate this situation?

Car issues

Idk if I’m in the wrong. I have a full time job. My husband takes care of the kids while I worked. Today was the day I was supposed to get us a car. But I couldn’t cause of the down payment. So now he’s texting me saying I’m wasting his day to be alone at Walmart so he can spend his tax return. I really want to say go ahead. Leave. Leave the kids and me alone. While you go out and spend money. While your at go ahead and buy urself your drugs and a bitch to go fuck.

Lucky I’m even thinking about him about the car situation if not I would’ve been buying me and the kids a car small enough for us!