Night nanny sleeping

Never hired a night nanny but I would think of it as a regular night shift job where you’re supposed to stay awake, no?! 🤷🏻‍♀️ I feel like she could be reading or watching smth but not sleeping, that seems weird.

Your concerns are completely valid, your baby’s well-being should always come first. Some night nannies do sleep when the baby sleeps, but their primary responsibility is to ensure the baby is safe and cared for throughout the night. If this makes you uncomfortable, you have every right to set clear expectations with your nanny about staying awake or following sleep guidelines. You are paying her. She may assure you that she is not completely asleep and can feel his every movement, but she cannot assure you that’s she is 100% alert to keep your baby safe. She can’t assure you that she’s going to react in time if something’s happens while he is on top of her seeing as how she’s already admit to being not completely awake. Not completely asleep means not completely alert. If it makes you more comfortable ask her to not sleep with him on top of her. If she cannot follow that basic rule from her boss why are you paying her?

I think her sleeping when baby sleeps is fine bc she has nothing else to do, but I would definitely tell her that you no longer want her to let baby sleep on her for safety reasons.

Agree, she can nap when baby sleeps on the crib but not cosleep, she needs to make baby sleep and back to the crib so she can relax again but also if we consider it a night shift she should be doing other task to be awake and check on the baby he is too small to let him sleep without supervision.. for the sids.

Night nannies are not cheap. She can assure you all she wants, tell her what you want her to do

I used to work as a PCA a long time ago for a disabled person. I would take naps here and there during night shift when the person didn’t need rotating or changes or meds. Can the baby not just go in the bassinet and she take a nap on a cot and wait for the baby to wake up? I don’t see the issue with her taking a nap, but it seems risky to me and it would me uncomfortable if anyone did that with my baby.

No co-sleeping with a newborn/infant that is not your own! HARD NO FOR ME! She can sleep when baby sleeps but that is it.

After approaching her about sleeping with baby on her chest and her not seeing the issue, personally I wouldn’t feel safe from that point.
If it were me in this situation I’d find a new nanny, as my anxiety would be through the roof.

Since you are the employer and paying her you set the job expectations. Personally, I would not accept co-sleeping at all due to SIDS risks.

I work part time as an overnight postpartum doula a break is necessary especially with a long shift as that. We cannot typically leave clock out take a 30 and come back. Our policy baby has to be resting and practicing safe sleep methods in bassinet, crib, cot also you are not in a deep sleep enough that you cannot hear baby stirring or waking. Also other task need to be completed as well we do light laundry, clean up nothing to major. But if she find nothing wrong with a 7 week old laying on her chest I wouldn’t feel comfortable continuing on.

Sleeping during a shift is normal for night nannies as long as she wakes up when the baby is awake. I’d trear co-sleeping as a gross negligence as it’s a dangerous practice against safety guidelines, give a warning and if she’d question or do it again dismiss her immediately. It’s a public information available on many sites.
https://www.lullabytrust.org.uk/

You’re paying her to do what you won’t which is care for the baby whilst you’re sleeping (that’s not a dig at all) my point is that you’re paying a nanny to be alert and make sure your baby sleeps soundly and wakes soundly.
You pay her so set clear expectations and that includes when you’re happy for her to sleep or not xx

If she cat naps when baby is down okay . But not whilst baby is on her .

Also why hire a night nanny ? Unless it’s apart of your culture to have them . Just curious ?

I know we all need the help but it’s part of having a baby too.

it mainly helps to minimise stress from sleep deprivation so you can have more mental capacity to be there for your child

I would say it is OK to let them sleep, otherwise what other task should they be doing?

What I would really mind is the habit she is creating with your baby by letting them sleep next to her. That is cosleeping. When she leaves, you will have to continue it or break that habit and be OK with it... Are you? I would rather let her be the one who breaks that habit and ask her if she knows how to settle a baby on their own crib because you don't want your baby to get used to cosleeping.

it helps with sleep deprivation, moms who may struggle with baby blues, PPD, postpartum anxiety and or rage. Offer feeding support safe sleeping habits for baby.

Absolutely not, sleeping ontop of her anyway because that could cause problems for you down the line with baby wanting that all the time and it might not be feesable for you. She should have a pull out bed or somewhere to rest herself when baby is asleep.

No idea but if baby is sleeping through why do you need a night nanny ? I think fine for her to sleep if baby is in own cot but baby should not be on her. This is not good practice !

I’m very pro cosleeping but only done with the mother. You’re in tune to your own baby I don’t think it’s safe enough for other people to do it at this age. Especially in a paid position.

She is hired for a night shift job. She needs to sleep during the day. Just like anyone would do if they were a night nurse at a hospital or working a factory. I would tell her stay awake or find a new job.

I get that . But the majority of people don’t have the money to hire a night nurse , nanny, au pair .

My daughter’s 16 months next week and has only just started sleeping through the night and we’re still breastfeeding . So I know what sleep deprivation is like . Plus I suffer with anxiety and depression before I had her.

So for most people that ain’t an option and for most people they can’t afford someone to look after their child like that. Like it’s tough , it’s also part of having a baby .

I completely understand a good portion of the homes I go to are very well off. Cleaners, personal chef the whole works. I’ve worked in million dollar homes. Your hsa or fsa can sometimes cover it. I do sliding scales or bartering services with my clients that can’t really afford the services.