Am I right to be mad?

So my mum has my son over night sometimes to give me a break as a single parent. Today I was on phone to her while he’s there and she randomly said that she was going out and casually that she was leaving my child with the neighbour. I said no I don’t want that, I like the neighbour but there’s some reasons I don’t want my son being left alone without my mum there my sons possibly on the spectrum as well so another reason. She said that’s fine he can go with her and that was that till this evening I found out she did leave him with the neighbour. I’m furious. She lied to me? I thought he was with her and he wasn’t. Like what if there had been an emergency or something. So I’ve told her how mad I am and she can’t see she’s done anything wrong and says I’m crazy for having a go at her and tries to make out I’m messed up in the head for being angry about it. She always does things like this like deliberatly doing stuff so I don’t trust her. And everyone always takes her side. Even on this my family are taking her side because no harm was done.

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She's gaslighting you! She sounds like a narcissist tbh! No respect for your boundaries at all. You are 100% right to be p*ssed and it really doesn't matter what anyone else in the family think. They shouldn't be taking any sides at all

Listen to Dr Ramani Durvasula, Its Not You.

You'll probably start to see how much she does this and to your family also so they are almost just are like under her spell!

Wow, I wouldn't be happy either and I wouldn't be leaving my child with her. Makes you think how many times this has happened before without you knowing.

I wouldn’t be happy. If she has offered to look after your child, then why does she need to pass him on. And if you’ve explicitly said, then why has she gone against your wishes?

I wouldn’t be happy you have left your child with her and if she can’t have him bring him back not leave with people you don’t know isn’t right. It’s your child not hers and should respect what decisions you make. I would have a chat about your boundaries and put things in place while your child is in her care. Yes she’s helping but that wouldn’t help it would make you now more stressed wondering if she will do it again and that’s not healthy for the both of you. Here if you need a chat ❤️

Thanks everyone! Just struggling at the moment I have no one else who can watch my little one except her and I’m not at work at the moment due to medical problems and can’t even afford his nursery and now this week they have found a mass on my bowel so panicking as I can’t go to appointments and if i need surgery will have to trust her with her for more than a day 😫

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