The lonely life of a SAHM

I do. But I’m in the US and he’s only 6months. But yeah. I keep thinking that like have I failed because we don’t have a village. I have friends that will say they can’t wait to meet him blah blah and then never contact me: it’s very…. It hurts tbh. I could handle it when they were ditching me, and I guess he’s just an extension of me but damn, why lie? Stop telling me you can’t wait to meet him and hang out and then just never text me and ignore me when I try.

Right there with you. I have family all close by but no one ever visits. It took a whole month for my own mother to see my newborn. My best friend who is finally around for one of my babies, has visited once. She talked about how when her other friend had a baby, she'd bring over meal prepped food and all this, but I've barely heard from her other than "sorry I forgot to text back". I feel like such an afterthought. I get people are busy and work, but damn, never seeing anyone except my husband, gets so lonely. Everyone wanted to come and over and see our baby while my husband was on paternity leave but I havent heard from anyone since. I've stopped reaching out to people because there's always an excuse or they make me feel bad in some way.

You’re so not alone in feeling lonely!

I'm extremely lonely too. I never felt so bored and tired at the same time, there are days where I feel like i'm in a time lapse and everything repeats itself over and over again. I had a whole mental breakI had a whole mental breakdown last weekend It was pretty bad. My friends don't talk to me anymore and so anxious and depressed. I'm currently in therapy, so i'm slowly getting better...i guess. Sometimes I feel like me being a stay at home. Mom is the reason why I am still three years postpartum.

It is lonely! I’ve been a working mum with my first and only became a SAHM after having my second and I find being a SAHM harder. I don’t get a break, I miss chatting with my colleagues and having adult interact everyday aside from my husband. I wouldn’t go back to work just because of that though as my career was really stressing me out. Plus I’d be working just to pay for nursery which is pointless.

Thanks Ladies! I'm weirdly glad (if that's the right word??)I'm not the only one feeling this, I was starting to minimize my feelings because of the constant comments from working mums, saying I have it easy.
It's interesting hearing people/old friends have ghosted us SAHM's as it's made me realise that's happened to me as well.
Also had family telling me, not to give up on my career, that I should go back, but my hours were 9-6 if I was lucky and it was the kind of industry that punished you if you didn't do voluntary overtime or full dedication.
Hope all you mummas are doing alright as well! 🫂
We have to keep reminding ourselves we're doing a good job, and it'll be all worth it when our kids get that swanky job that pays for our retirement or they'll be a bodybuilder that can carry us everywhere to return the favour😂

feeling this too! I had a desk job and now I'm the lightest I've ever been due to the amount of running around.....and also probably because my son sees me eating and then steals all my food, before eating his 😂
And 💯 with you on lucky side. A work mum last night said her son started walking at nursery and I'm just thinking, I'm so lucky I got to see my son take his first steps 🥹

yes, exactly this! I can’t just sit down for an hour to have lunch or a drink in peace 😂 if it wasn’t for lockdown I would have missed a lot of my first born’s milestones due to working so I’m glad I’m able to witness everything again with my second.

I feel you