I don’t know I love my husband now…

Since we have our son(20m) i feel less love toward my husband but seeing more negative parts about him. He is a lovely person who helps me a lot. My son loves him so much too.
But, I just feel like I forgot how to love him now and this makes me a bit scary. I even think am I happy to be with him or did I have right choice? I loved him a lot before pregnancy but I feel lost toward him now..

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Completely normal to feel like this, having a baby is a massive adjustment to both life & your romantic relationship.

If you can maybe arrange a date night (or during the day if you can get childcare) & just go out with your husband. Do something that you both enjoy (even if its getting chips & sitting outside to eat them) & just be with one another again to reconnect.

we had a date during a day once which was very lovely. I enjoyed so much and we felt like fresh about us but then I’m feeling like no love to him again.
He touches me but I don’t want. Something like that.
hope this is normal.

Do you want to stay together? Or, do you think that maybe you have outgrown the relationship?

Either way, you two could always mend the relationship & move forward. Loving someone & choosing to be with them is a choice.

If you feel like the relationship has run its course & you do not want to be with your husband anymore. That's okay too.

Talking to your husband about what you're going through maybe step one.

I think it’s pretty normal because you give so much of yourself to your baby/toddler and can feel like you have nothing left for anyone else. How long have you been together? We went through a few years of struggle in between our 2, eldest is 9 now. We’re in a much better place this time round because we knew to expect it and understand each others needs a bit better. It’s still hard at times but we’ve been together nearly 14 years now and I couldn’t imagine being with someone else

we are together just over 3 years now.
I know and I do love him. But I’m confused of myself that why I feel this way. I wanna give him what he wants like cuddles more or physical affection and I even think “today I will show it more” but the end of the day, I don’t feel anymore but want to have own time and try to turn off myself to sleep cuz I have soooo many things to think about all day long.

3 years is long enough to lose the initial sparkle and burning desire that you have to start with, especially with a baby/toddler thrown in there. The dynamics of your relationship are just changing and you both need to find the new way of loving each other. Atm I’m unable to give my husband much physical affection at all and I know he really misses it but we also know it’ll come back in another year or so

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Hour night wakes and 5am get up

Can anyone shed some light as to why on earth my child doesn’t want to sleep??? My eyeballs are bleeding!!

Never been a good sleeper, but the problems always changing. He’s nearly 9 months old.

Beginning of the month he dropped to 2 naps. We could put him to bed at 7pm and he’d get up for the day at 6am, with multiple wake ups every 2/3 hours.

Now we put him down at 7pm, he can do a good 4/5 hour stretch, but come 1/2am he’s up every hour then getting up for the day at 5am. This then completely messes up the day because I can’t keep him awake long enough to even get to 7pm, let alone later.

He has 2 naps, roughly about 1hr10 each but it changed based on when he wakes and trying to get him to a reasonable bed time.

What could be the reason for this? 6am is fine, but 5am is not 😩😩

Over supply of milk

I am nearly 5weeks postpartum and I have such a big over supply of BM.
Has anyone donated / sold their supply, if so where do you recommend for this?

AITA

In the uk there is an outbreak of meningitis, in a specific area mainly. My BD has family from that area and decided to go and meet up with them, I said if he does then he cannot have contact with the kids for 7-10 days after incase he picks anything up. Am I being over dramatic? I reallyyy don’t want my young kids getting anything serious

I think its fair

Me and my partner agreed to sleep in 1 day of the weekend.
He doesn't find it fair to look after both kids (my 4 year old isnt his) while i sleep so he looks after the baby while i sleep and my toddlers at his dads and ill look after both the next day.
Straightaway it was pretty unfair as i let him sleep in until he wakes up 10-12
He wakes me up when baby starts fussing because he wants milk (doesnt need it)
I cant pump as i dont supply enough.
So i get woken at 9/9:30 to feed baby then i get him sleep then theres no point sleeping in as my toddlers being dropped off.
I also find it unfair that i get both kids to sleep most night, i get my toddler to sleep everyday hes home (4/5days) and i get my baby to sleep most nights with the exception of maybe twice a month as his dad struggless then about 95% of his thru the day naps.
I have also been unwell for a few months (tumor scare) and am waiting 18 weeks to see a specialist so im obviously petrified for that, so unbelievably tired and alot of aches and pains, specifically these pounding headaches ive been having.
After i had been up til 11:30 getting both kids to sleep lastnight and my partner falling asleep at 10 then him ignoring the baby cries all morning until my toddler woke up im fed up slammed to door and rold him not to expect to sleep in unless he gets the baby to sleep the night b4.
I keep having issues with him not feeling the wet from baby being sick or weeing himself or being able to smell it do about 98% of the time hes given to me i have to clean him up n change him.
Including at night, we agreed my partner would change nappies (1 a night at 5am) while i feed (2,4,5,6:30) but every night when i get him hes pissed through and my partner gets annoyed when i wake him up n moan about it.
Then the morning after hes annoyed at how much washing there is (thats his job) and moans about how often i change myself (baby constantly shits thru and sicks on me) and baby
Honestly im just so tired all the time

Baby clothes

Just out of curiosity, why do parents love zipper onesies?

Don’t get me wrong, I tried zipper ones it’s easy to zip in and out when putting it on the first time and taking it out, but I find it difficult when changing diapers especially when baby is asleep.

I prefer those kimono style buttons where it’s easy to button or too down button with crotch snaps.

Is everyone thinking the same or different? Lol

Car seat

No idea which car seat to get next. Please hit me with your recommendations, 1year+ (preferably rear facing or 360). Thank you 🫶🏻