Still spoon-feeding

Hi. My 18 month year is still been predominantly spoon feed. Anyone else's little one still like this? Any advice to get him to self feed? The problem is he was making progress with picking up some of his favourite food like toast, omelette and learn to put food in his mouth with a fork previously. Then I went back to work and he has been going to my in laws 4x week (no nursery) so has lunch and dinner there. They don't give any finger foods and always give him puréed/ mashed up foods and always spoon feed him holding the bowl and straw cup. Now he is used to being spoon feed and doesn't self feed at all.

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Is there a reason your in laws don’t give finger foods and mash and puree everything? Can you make him a pack lunch with finger foods? This sounds like it is affecting his skills as he isn’t practicing. I don’t think he should be 100% self-feeding but if you feel he’s regressed it sounds like you may have already identified the issue xx

Hi Tara. Honestly I don't know why they didn't give any finger foods. They have saw him eat finger foods in person when visiting and my partner was sending them videos of our little boy picking up pieces of chicken and eating by himself. They know he is capable of eating chunks of food. Maybe they are scared he will choke but he is 18 months now. I think my mil just enjoys babying him and spoon feeding him. I could try making a packed lunch but I still think they would carry on spoon feeding him

I did speak to my partner about this and he just goes to let his mum do what she whats as she is doing us a favour looking after our son

Try giving him a packed lunch and just say to them you want him to start eating more solid foods but didn’t want them to go to the trouble of making anything. He is 18 months and they can’t spoon feed him forever. See if that makes a difference ☺️

Thanks Tara. Yeh I'll try that. Though I'm not sure it will make much of a difference. I made sweet potato chips for my little boy when she was visiting before. Just left to grab his straw cup and she was mashing up the sweet potato with a fork 😐

Oh dear. I do think you need to ask why they don’t want him to eat solids? You’re letting them take care of your child and that is a favour to you but that doesn’t mean you can’t all raise him together. You’re still the parent and you can very much have your say in things. I think if he was practicing the skill before then he can do it, it’s just he’s not using it frequently then he won’t do it. It’s also better for them to eat solids so they can get used to it’s

My LG has lots of finger foods but when it comes to dinner I usually feed her and give her a spoon/fork and she will do it herself for a few spoonfuls and that’s it. She gets bored and wants me to do it. They do it all at their own time. But I think need to have a word with in laws. Even though they are doing you and your husband a favour he needs to be able to do finger foods, by himself.
And ask why still purred and mashed foods as they can have most things whole now.
They are maybe scared incase he chokes ?
I would still encourage it as home even if it’s just his snacks when your working xx

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Don’t know what planet he is on but having the kids alone for 2.5 days is not relaxing. I was stressed!

When he was away, I did miss him and wanted him to come back but now he’s back, I want him to go away again😂
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They’re sat at the table, fork in hand, consistently eating, and have one chicken nugget left.
Your adult friend comes over from behind you, picks up the last chicken nugget, and eats it.
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I tell my husband about these posts I see sometimes and he’s even shocked by some of the things these guys say/do.

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