Do you stand up for your partner?

If someone in your family had said something horrible/ sent them a horrible message for no reason. Would you message that person to defend your partner? I was sent a horrible message from someone on my partners side and he did nothing. He said he didn’t think he needed to tell them I was upset

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100% you should always have your partners back. If this is coming from his family he should be the one letting them know this is not okay but if he won’t, don’t be afraid to stand up for yourself either. I would want to know why he isn’t more mad and immediately speaking to his family to say that’s unacceptable. Is he just not a confrontational person? I’d be worried my partner was talking bad about me behind my back which is why his family member was so okay with sending a nasty message.

it was his side of the family, they really upset me over nothing all I said was I was upset with something that they did with my daughter. He said he didn’t want to upset them by telling them off but was happy for them to upset me

My husband is sometimes hesitant to reinforce our boundaries with his family because he doesn’t want to upset them so I can understand that. I don’t understand allowing someone from his family to send an upsetting message without sticking up for you. They’re definitely crossing a line and since it’s his family and he’s your partner, he should be saying something. I’m sorry you’re going through this!

I've yelled at my husbands mother multiple times for the way she treated him or things she's dsid to him and his sister. Other week almost got into a fight defending my husband to another person for something my husband was completely in the wrong for but I'm not about to embarrass him and show him up infront of other people. There's been a few times where at the beginning of the relationship his mother was a bitch about me to my husband behind my bk and he didn't stick up for me and I had to call her out myself but he is absolutely terrible with confrontation but I got sick of it and made him not coz I needed him to but outta respect for me n he needed to put his mum in place. Some people aren't but for confrontation at all my husband is a literally puppy not that its an excuse

Only if he asked me to

100% and I could cut that person off.

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