“Letting your child have a dummy after 12-18months is lazy parenting” agree or disagree?

My 15 month old still has a dummy but only for sleep, or when shes badly teething, it helps her to have something to suck on.

I dont let her have it when we're out and about though and she doesn't get it as a way to defuse a tantrum, id never learn how to defuse one either and she will just learn that a tantrum will get her what she wants 🤷

My girl is turning 1 next week and im starting to limit to naps and car rides

I need a 'why the fuck is everything lazy parenting ffs' button tbh.
My twins are just turned 2 and still have them. Send that judgmental butch round my house for a conversation about why it's not lazy that is preventing me removing them.

No I don’t agree. I think a lot of people have opinions on stuff that is not of their concern. Everything doesn’t equal lazy parenting. We should normalize minding our business.

I don't let them have it after 6 months because I heard from a pediatrician that after six months it can affect their teeth and up the risk of ear infections

My daughter didn't wean of her paci till she was nearly 3. She has seen a dentist since she had her first tooth. He wasn't concerned. He just said keep trying to wean her and eventually, one day, she will just give it up. Well, she did, and she has perfect teeth.

My son didn't get off a bottle till he was nearly 3. He used It as comfort. Both kids have seen the dentist from young ages, and he was never concerned about their teeth.

They will eventually give it up. It's no one business. How long a child uses a paci besides the parents. People need to bud of other people's parenting

My 21 month old uses dummy for sleep only but on the occasion she has had a really bad night or poorly etc we give in and let her have it. We’d love for her not to have it but sometimes needs be xx

My daughter had a paci only for sleep u til she turned 2. Teeth are great. She was VERY attached to it though and has continued to chew on her blanket and stuffies because she needs that oral comfort. Maybe she would have done better with it but she doesn't need it to sleep. Kids are all different. Unless it's inhibiting development, leave them alone b

My daughter is 2 and only uses it for sleep. I have no intention of taking it away from her until she understands, we have a baby on the way and I don’t see why I should unsettle her any more. He teeth are perfect, if they weren’t I would have taken it away. Dentist says it’s fine so 🤷‍♀️

My 3 year old still has his dummy for sleeping. I don't think it is lazy parenting at all. If it's a comfort for the child, then I don't see the harm in it. They will give it up when they're ready.

It’s not lazy. But I see 5 year olds with them and it baffles me. I don’t think it lazy I just can’t believe the child won’t let it go.

we didn’t take away the paci until my daughter was a little over 2, it had nothing to do with laziness she was just still very dependent on it for nighttime and it wasn’t hurting anything. her teeth are fine. people should mine their own business

My daughter is 19 months and still uses a paci for sleep. Her dentist legit said "better a paci that you can take away than a thumb that you cant". She only uses it for sleep, but im also not worried about it vuz its just for sleep 🤷‍♀️

My son had a dummy until 9-10months which he only used for sleep and naps anyways but then his teeth came in loads at once so we thought let’s take it away now, took it away then sleep trained about a month later. Funnily enough, he found a dummy in one of his toy boxes months later and didn’t even know what to do with it so I think we chose a perfect time to get rid of it. Now he’s sleep trained and no dummy so it worked for us. I definitely don’t judge others if they do it later, every parent is different and every baby is different. There’s too much pressure on mums anyways let alone judging them ✌🏾

My son is 8 months and we already limit to naps/nighttime sleep 99% of the time. Occasionally on an extremely fussy day he can get it for a bit during the day (vaccine days etc). We will be completely weaning off by 1 year. It's not worth the dental complications in my opinion, but everyone is allowed to make their own choices, I don't judge for different opinions.

My plan was to chuck it at 18 months but we’re flying when he’s 20 months. I want him to have it for helping his ears pop. So we will wean after vacation. Right now he only gets it to sleep. And I’m only doing it early because I don’t want him to have dental issues later on

I think mothers should mind their business and not judge other mums. The friend’s child may still have dummy at 2.5 but with bitchy mums like that, it’s their children that will end up worst off, not the child with the dummy.

I dont Think its lazy. I think maybe after 3 they should definitely be getting rid of it but mostly before. My son self weaned around 2 ish slightly after. And that’s when we plan to for our second. I think my son who’s now 3 would be way too old. And I still wouldn’t call it lazy but I think they just aren’t trying hard enough unless there is a physical reason why they can’t

I don’t think it’s anyone business tbh focus on your own family

My LG uses her dummy for drifting off to sleep and SOMETIMES when she’s a little upset about something (not tantrum wise!) as it can be a good distraction and even help regulate her emotions whilst she can’t tell us yet but will also happily go the day without it. She is 19 months old and if a dummy helps her regulate an upset moment or sooth her to sleep damn right I’m letting her have it.

Everyone is entitled to their “opinion” but to voice it as “Lazy Parenting” - ffs! Comments like this annoy me so much and I just find it quite ignorant and rude to be honest. I’m sure we ALL do things people disagree with…. including the opinionated woman this post refers to but my god, we’re just trying to get by each and every challenge we’re faced with the best we can. These babies will eventfully grow up and navigate life but if that meant they need a little more time then so what? I believe I had a dummy until 3 or even older… do you see me needing a dummy now to get by? No!

In some situations it is lazy parenting, the parents don't want to do the work, they don't want to deal with tantrums or sleepless nights, etc.
It's not usually my first thought if I just see someone out and about though. I try not to judge because you don't know everyone's situation.
My youngest is relearning how to walk after chemo, so he uses a stroller when we go out places. I know some people will see him, he's on the small side but definitely still looks his age(almost 4) and think he should be walking and I just don't want to have to deal with a toddler walking in a mall or whatever.
Being in a pediatric hospital for 6 months I've seen kids all the way up to 12 that still have a pacifier for various reasons.

Even if it is lazy… so what.
Gotta pick your battles in parenting. This isn’t the battle everyone picks.

how did the hospital activities go? I hope your son is doing well!

My son kept his dummy until he was 20 months. I was originally anti dummy after ages 1, but we went through major changes when he was younger and I didn’t want to take away his comfort.

However, the reason why I took it away was that I didn’t want it affect his teeth.

We found out a few months after, that my son needs oral feedback, due to sensory needs. He has a condition which affects his development. The educational worker, at the time, asked if he still had a dummy as it would give him that feedback. I felt bad, because he was putting his hands in his mouth a lot and I had thought it was teething. Despite this, I haven’t given him the dummy back, but he has a dedicated chewy to help him regulate.

So, I’m not really judgemental, some things aren’t as black and white as they might appear.

I wouldn’t say lazy but I stopped my little boy at 11 months and he couldn’t care less. I had only really given it to him for naps and bedtime anyway as I had a dummy until I was 7 🤦🏼‍♀️ made me overly conscious about him having one and I was so bloody lucky that he gave it up without fuss. I was very worried about the teeth and perhaps a lisp because of it. I had a gap the size of a 2p coin when I was younger but very fortunately have ended up with fine teeth. Not sure if he would still have it now had I have not been conscious because of my own experience

My daughter is nearly 3 she only had it when she was tired but now she’s not had it since Tuesday morning

that’s so exciting!! I’m glad everything went well.

It sounds bloody harsh to called their alleged friend lazy for it mind. My only concern with dummy use is the impact it can have on teeth alignment if there is prolonged use

If a child is having a dummy nearer to the age of three than possibly. But some children give up the dummy easier than others. Also their parents may have also attempted several times and not been able to and the child may have special needs and still needing it and that's ok. My son has had a week of dummy only at bedtime except when he bumped his head. He had his first night without it last night and went to sleep without tears he's 26 months old not sure if it's going to be that easy tonight