Co sleep but now pregnant with second baby?

Has anyone else been in this situation? Any advice? Do we try and get him in his own bed or do me and my partner sleep in separate room when the baby arrives?

Note - we actually enjoy co sleeping currently but know it will be carnage when the baby comes

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When we found out we were expecting again, we made a big boy bedroom and he has a double bed. We’d try and encourage him back to his bed and one of us may sleep in his bed. Once the baby was here, he got in our bed the first few weeks and we continued taking him back to his bed but he was doing longer stretches. Now he doesn’t come through till 6/7am and climbs in with us all

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We don't but several friends have. Both worked on toddler going into own room at start of the night then instead of bringing them in to cosleep, one of them sleeping in their room. When baby came along this continued and they mostly slept separately at first. One has dad go in with toddler after 1st wake, the other brings toddler in their bed with baby in next to me

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I think you just need to discuss what’s going to work best for you guys! Would you prefer separate rooms or do you want to try and get him in his own room? What works for some may not work for you so it’s about yous! We coslept but not consistently after 7 months when our daughter went into her own room. Just before I fell pregnant again she started coming through to our room loads and most nights would be in with us. When I fell pregnant I put a stop to it but we did get her a double bed which is great because we can just jump in with her if need be. Our second is almost 6 months and most nights I end up in my daughter’s bed from around 1am ish. She just likes having me next to her x

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We never co-slept with our eldest until she refused to sleep in her own bed around 3.5yrs old (I was early pregnant). She's only just started to sleep in her own room now at 5.5yrs 🙃
I thought it was going to be a nightmare when the baby came, but she slept in the next to me, and they didn't tend to wake eachother up. Was quite nice having all 4 of us in the one room in a 3 bed house 😂🙈

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I am currently pregnant and we going to keep the cot next to me for the baby, and still co sleep with my eldest. I don’t want him to feel like we pushing him out because of the baby, it will be so much for him to process and accept…

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