Not Wanting to Have Sex

Are you on any hormonal contraception I find the injection really lowers labido, also come bedtime you're probably looking forward to just laying down and having a rest! Looking after a small human is really tiring

I'm not on anything. True by the time the day is over, I'm drained. I don't understand how men have this high sex drive it's annoying 😅

Normal is debatable, common - yes.
Hormones have a lot to answer for, contraception can often be blamed but if you're not on anything then potentially your own hormone levels could have gone awry which the doctor could test for if you think it's that.

Sleep and general exhaution is the other big issue! I often find I'm really keen for it during the day, will be messaging my husband about it whilst we're at work and then bed time comes around and I'm just shattered!

Do you feel attracted to your husband and are you intimate in other ways like cuddling etc? Have you discussed your low drive?

Love what Emily said, I’d also add this…
The less you have it, the less you want. But the more you have it, the more you want.
That’s how the brain works.
So it can be common that you don’t want sex because you haven’t had it in a while.
The same way we prioritise work, kids, social life, etc… we need to also prioritise sex and intimacy on a more purposeful way, instead of just leave for the end of the day.
But as Emily said, there is a lot at play when it comes to sex drive.

I agree with Pam. We very rarely have sex but when we do I’m like ‘we should definitely do this more often’ and then go back to not doing it 😆
The longer I go without it the less interested I am in doing it and I don’t really even think about it. Then one day we’ll get little one down for bed early and I feel up to it and then remember how enjoyable it can be. It’s weird.

i'm currently pregnant but i remember when i hit 1 year PP i still had no sex drive... nothing my husband did wrong just my body that didn't want to/couldnt get turned on

I feel this a lot we have a 5 year old and 1 year old together and having sex 2 me just feels like a chore more than anything else 😩

I was just like you ladies, but now I want it every day, I guess it is because I left my daughter’s useless dad that didn't do anything and all he wanted was sex .and now my boyfriend is the opposite does everything, and never bothers or asks for it, but I'm ON with his good behavior, so it s really on men to treat their women good to get sex. At the same time, even when I'm not in mood for it, I just do it bc I know he in mood for it, so I just do it, it takes less than 30 mins 😄😋

Very normal! In my case my sex drive was very low because I take antidepressants, but I’m slowly getting back because I’m decreasing my meds.

Honestly my man has no sex drive and I have a high sex drive it makes me crazy