I’m not ok

Can ppd happen over a year? The past week I have just felt sad and depressed but it could also be everything that is going on in my life I just feel so lonely and I have none I can talk to about all the stress in my life today all I did was cry I’m home alone with just me and my daughter

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I don’t have an answer, but am here if you want to talk! 🫶🏼

I’m sorry and it can be very very hard some days but I’m here if you need to let it out

I am not sure about ppd but you can always go check your thyroid if you think what you’re feeling is not normal, hormones can take a long time to get back on track. But being by yourself with your baby is definitely overwhelming and isolating. Have you tried finding other moms where you live? Public libraries have some activities for kids and it could be a good place to find other moms.

thank you

Technically PPD is within a year of birth, but clinical depression can happen at any time and is often made worse by other stress or trauma in your life. Call your OB today and let them know what’s going on. Leave a message if they dont answer. Often times they will have a nurse on call that can help you get an appointment quickly. Hopefully early next week.

If you feel that you can not wait until you can be seen and need help now call 988 (if you are in the US)

every time I try to plan to go out like today. I wanted to go walk a nature trail by my house mind you I live in the city. It’s a little nature trail. It’s been raining out and off all day. I’ve tried joining groups on Facebook Mom’s in my area but all Mom’s my age have older kids I’m 40 with a one year-old.

thank you

that’s it my village doesn’t understand I told my boyfriend today that I’m not OK. He’s like an hour away at his parents for the weekend. I asked him to come home today and he said he can’t till tomorrow cause he’s helping his dad do some stuff around his house.

I’ll call on Monday

Oh I’m sorry to hear you haven’t been able to find a group that you have more in common with. Maybe you can just vent here…

I get it his parents need help his dad is 81 and his mom is 78 and he goes every other weekend but this weekend I just needed him

no my mom and dad are out of town till Monday visiting with my brothers both my brothers live like 3 hours away

in our community

Family culture difference on money

Sorry this is long, I hope some of you get to the end and give advice!!!

So I’m a very thrifty person, things are tight at the moment, the cost of living crisis and my house is heated by oil so things are extortionate. We aren’t on the bread line but we aren’t flush, hubby might be made redundant so there is some financial pressure.

Sometimes I buy my sons something nicer, on the justification that I can sell it on after (♥️ vinted ♥️). I have also been planning on pretty much breaking even most of the baby things I bought from face book market place, side by crib, baby changing unit, etc.

Hubby and I have different money cultures with our families (he’s Indian, I’m British). I’m my family we don’t mix money, we would help each other out if someone was in trouble and will get each other gifts on special occasions. With hubby’s family money is much more fluid, they will give each other things worth thousands of £ just because.

Hubby’s brother bought him a new laptop and a new Google phone, he’s been very generous to hubby. Hubby hasn’t given the same back because brother is much richer.

Hubby and I mostly share finances. If it’s relevant I’m the higher earner.

Now to the point! My babies are so cute they’ve given hubby’s brother (currently single) baby rabies. He’s asked for our baby stuff when we’re done with it. He’s been so generous to hubby I feel really stingy saying no. But I’d never have bought some of the stuff if I wasn’t going to get a return on it - the thought makes me a bit anxious. If we gave all our baby stuff given the second hand value it still wouldn’t equal what the brother had given hubby.

I thought maybe I could give him some stuff but sell some stuff, but hubby said then his brother will just have to go out and buy that stuff, so I should name my price and ask his brother for the money. That makes me feel very uncomfortable, given how generous the brother has been to hubby.

So what do I do ladies? Give it all and suck it up? Give part of it and sell parts on Vinted/FB, or ask hubbys brother for money for it and be uncomfortable? Or do you see another solution?

No one is being entitled or rude here, just a culture difference I need to navigate.

My relationship is failing I feel so alone.. I need a girlfriend to talk to :(

I'm a sahm and I feel so stuck... anyone going through the same thing? I could really use someone to relate to and talk through this with. Feeling so vulnerable but if I don't I won't be able to pull myself out of this

What are we giving our soon-to-be 3yo for their birthdays?

We have the magnetiles, we have the kinetic sand and play doh, we have the play kitchen…

Literally, is there anything left in the world to buy this spoilt kid? 😅

Go to dinner ideas

Looking for recipes you use in your family that are not the traditional lasagna, shepards pie, ect

Is it just me?

I’m 35. I have a 21 month old and i’m 5 months pregnant. I have no friends. Everyone has either drifted away or ghosted me. I don’t know what i’ve done but i’m so lonely now. My best friend of 20 years has ghosted me and i’m heartbroken. I’ve tried to reach out to other friends but never get anywhere. I don’t know how to make new friends. I honestly just feel so alone.

Baby groups?

Hello there!!
I hope you enjoying the 5month babies 🫠 the cuteness outweighs everything over here.
We live in the area of Croydon & need to start going to baby groups ( I NEED it more than him though) but I am a little bit clueless. Any recommendations?
We are happy to travel a bit too.
Thanks ☺️