Resentment around breastfeeding?

Has anyone else’s relationship taken a hit since they decided to breastfeed?
I don’t even mean for the low libido reason. I just feel like my partner resents the fact that I breastfeed because I can calm our daughter down/ always have to do bedtime etc.

It may sound silly but we are 6 months in and it feels like he is getting more annoyed by it than ever.

I understand some frustration and have tried to talk to him about it but I think he also doesn’t want to upset me so I feel like he’s tip toeing around the issue.

Anyone else been through it?

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Honestly for me it’s the opposite.. it’s not him getting upset it’s me because of the fact that I’m the only person who can comfort/calm him down, it’s always on me to put him to bed and it’s only me who wakes in the night every 2-3 hours for feedings while he sleeps and then complains he’s “tired” in the morning when he slept a full 8 hours. I’ve tried pumping but he refuses bottles no matter what so it’s completely on me atp

I’m more upset with my husband. When I breastfed in the middle of the night I kicked him because he’s sleeping and I’m not. Mind you he was in maternity leave

Not me personally but I know someone whose partner got postnatal depression because he struggled to bond with baby and I think the whole breastfeeding thing contributed. He ended up with talk therapy.

I know my partner struggled in the first few weeks but is fine now. All because baby was constantly on me and when I stepped back I realised how little he’d had her. So we introduced a bottle now and then. I think I forgot how much bonding feeding is x

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