Midwife home visit

Has anybody refused to have the midwife visit them at home the day after coming back from the hospital?

We were discharged today with our little one and have been told that a midwife will come to our home tomorrow. I have two boys who are both on the spectrum and do not deal with change very well, having so much happen at fast has really thrown them both and this evening has been stressful because of the meltdowns.

I was thinking of calling the community midwife tomorrow to request that the appointment be done at the doctors surgery or clinic down the road so that we can start to settle or boys again and to avoid further stress for them.

Has anybody else ever done this before? Will this cause any issues?

I'm just trying to keep everyone as settled as possible whilst we adjust.

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I had a phone call the day after discharge and they offered to come if I wanted them to check on me and baby it was completely optional for me so hopefully you won’t have any issues in asking them not to come to your home x

Completely understandable! You’ve got this! 🥰 xx

Having a child and also myself on the spectrum YOU are allowed to say no, or like you've said arrange to go to the clinic. I made them wait 3 days before doing a home visit to allow my 11 year old to have her baby sister and us together for a few days before and time for her and myself to process. Advocate for yourself and eldest children, you've got this mumma 🥰

This would absolutely send me into panic mode 🤣 and read it and was like "she's had two children she knows what to put her baby to sleep in fml" 🤣 stand your ground, if you don't want it don't let anyone tell you. You want to put your mental health first and your boys, if it's going to send the household into dyregulation you have every right in saying no, you need more time. 💕

I think I'm going to text my midwife tomorrow morning when I know she's in rather than going through the community midwife. She's been amazing and happily advocates for me and stands her ground when I'm struggling to. She's gone back and forth with my consultant team a fair few times during this pregnancy for me 🙈

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