How do you feel about their “husband’s hot wife” trend.

I keep seeing reels with women saying they may not be remembered for X or Y but at least their husbands will be “the guy with the hot wife”… as their motivation to get in and stay in shape.

This makes me feel a bit icky.

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If you like it I’d love to hear your perspective.

I….haven’t seen it. The only trends I’ve seen are the ones that show mum looking like casual messy 99% of the time and then she dresses up and looks hot for that 1% she goes out. (Un grrrr song. I love those ones. I’m like yessss mama!!) Or the opposite, where he’s holding a phone with a hot looking wife and then he moves the phone and she’s carrying a baby in her pjs and looks nothing like the girl in the phone 😂 I haven’t seen one you’re talking about.

lol!!! Funny what everyone gets on their algorithm. I just started my weight loss journey to get ready for my next baby and have been getting a slew of fitness videos.

If that's the legacy you're going for you have got to have incredibly low expectations of yourself

I totally agree! I also see the narrative that because they workout before and during and after their pregnancy is the reason why they “bounced back” and that everyone else is making excuses. I love that their hard work is paying off but it’s not like that for everyone. When I tried eating below my maintenance calories my milk supply would drastically decrease and feeding my baby is my priority. It’s not that I’m not working hard to be healthily.

Oh yeah mine is full of weight loss and fitness workouts maybe a year or 2 ago it’s now full of dance/hair/nails/lashes mainly dance lol.

way to accurate 😭

I haven't seen this trend but honestly I wouldn't care 🤷‍♀️ to each their own

I really hope people dont only remember me as someone’s wife lol them at least knowing my name would be nice

Not seen it but it implies they just getting fit for a man, so the message is crap

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Family culture difference on money

Sorry this is long, I hope some of you get to the end and give advice!!!

So I’m a very thrifty person, things are tight at the moment, the cost of living crisis and my house is heated by oil so things are extortionate. We aren’t on the bread line but we aren’t flush, hubby might be made redundant so there is some financial pressure.

Sometimes I buy my sons something nicer, on the justification that I can sell it on after (♥️ vinted ♥️). I have also been planning on pretty much breaking even most of the baby things I bought from face book market place, side by crib, baby changing unit, etc.

Hubby and I have different money cultures with our families (he’s Indian, I’m British). I’m my family we don’t mix money, we would help each other out if someone was in trouble and will get each other gifts on special occasions. With hubby’s family money is much more fluid, they will give each other things worth thousands of £ just because.

Hubby’s brother bought him a new laptop and a new Google phone, he’s been very generous to hubby. Hubby hasn’t given the same back because brother is much richer.

Hubby and I mostly share finances. If it’s relevant I’m the higher earner.

Now to the point! My babies are so cute they’ve given hubby’s brother (currently single) baby rabies. He’s asked for our baby stuff when we’re done with it. He’s been so generous to hubby I feel really stingy saying no. But I’d never have bought some of the stuff if I wasn’t going to get a return on it - the thought makes me a bit anxious. If we gave all our baby stuff given the second hand value it still wouldn’t equal what the brother had given hubby.

I thought maybe I could give him some stuff but sell some stuff, but hubby said then his brother will just have to go out and buy that stuff, so I should name my price and ask his brother for the money. That makes me feel very uncomfortable, given how generous the brother has been to hubby.

So what do I do ladies? Give it all and suck it up? Give part of it and sell parts on Vinted/FB, or ask hubbys brother for money for it and be uncomfortable? Or do you see another solution?

No one is being entitled or rude here, just a culture difference I need to navigate.

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Looking for more same age friends!!

Hi! I’m 23 and a stay at home (soon to be) mom. I have been having a tough time finding friends/women in similar circumstances to mine and would love to make some if possible! If you feel the same, let me know

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I live in New Zealand and I’m really keen on finding a regular best friend to chat with. It’s incredibly lonely. I love Australia and I think it would be fantastic to have friends there. If you’re comfortable with long-distance friendships we could meet up in New Zealand. I also want someone to video call because I currently have no friends every single day. I feel really lonely because I don’t have a nice family. I just want friends to become family one day and of course I need to trust them first which is why I’m making this post. I just got married 🥹👰❤️

My relationship is failing I feel so alone.. I need a girlfriend to talk to :(

I'm a sahm and I feel so stuck... anyone going through the same thing? I could really use someone to relate to and talk through this with. Feeling so vulnerable but if I don't I won't be able to pull myself out of this