Am I overreacting

Heya, I don’t quite understand - did he post a reel someone else made saying their ex is a bad bitch but hot, or did he make a video saying is Ed is a bad bitch but hot etc?

Does he say or do other things to make you think he is still attracted to her or are you jealous of her in any way prior to this? It is an odd video to post public knowing she would see it. It's a little over the top about her looks so why post it if it doesn't apply unless he is just posting for other guys who may be in a situation like this not necessarily his sitch just something that happens to men sometimes. Like if the chick seems like a catch that means there is automatically something wrong with the baby daddy that it didn't work out but often times it's not so black and white. Idk...I can see how it would make you feel so some overall context on his attraction to her might help

It would bother me that there are still so many unresolved issues and such resentment there.

That doesnt sound healthy though and your baby will witness this. It is bound to cause tensions between you both when you will want some of his focus on your new child.

I would not be upset in terms of being threatened or jealous about the ex, but I would be a bit concerned with his level of maturity and the way he’s speaking about women. I completely get that the system can be unfair towards men, I completely get the emotional mental strain, but posting things calling women bitches just going to add fuel to the fire. I would try to support him to take a more mature approach, of being respectful towards women in general and towards his ex, even if she is awful towards him, because then he can show his children that he has behaved well and done everything for them - you can definitely advocate for men’s rights without treading on women - equally you can advocate for women’s right without treading on men.

I hope this is helpful x

Well I mean it's not a secret and shouldn't come as a big sursprise that he at least at some point thought she was hot when they got together. And then he saw you this way too when you guys got together. And since he wasn't the one to say it, it surely wasn't his finest moment but I don't think you need to be overly upset about it.

It would bother me temporarily but give him grace, I don’t think his intent was for it to come across this way

Seems like his anger towards her is making him think toxic things. This won't be good for him in the long run. Why isn't he pouring his energy into taking her to court to get back his son? What right does she have to fully take him away if he did nothing wrong?

I think the bigger concern is the risk of him falling down a toxic masculinity/incel type of rabbit hole more than it have anything to do with his ex in particular. The video is just saying that even if someone is attractive and looks like they have their act together on the outside doesn’t mean they are a good person. It’s not like your husband said that his ex was the hottest person on the face of the earth. Even if that were true, it doesn’t take away from his feelings for you. Marriage shouldn’t be skin deep. I would encourage you to let him know how you feel in a non-accusatory way.

It’d bother me that he’s so openly airing his dirty laundry online. I am not about that one bit.

You are right to be bothered. You live with him, so you are probably picking up on other stuff not posted here.
The fact that he posted this video, and he says that he hates her is a red flag. Hate and love are both very strong emotions, which are sometimes very much together.
He sounds as if he is still angry about stuff from their relationship, not only their son.
You are pregnant, so prioritise having a safe and healthy delivery, but afterwards, you should lay down some lines of respect.
His behaviour needs to be addressed professionally, otherwise it continue to build negativity, and will seep into the relationship he has with the newborn.

I don't think you're overreacting. But I also think it's something you two can work out. Discuss it, be honest with him how you feel and just because he didn't intend to make you feel that way doesn't mean he can just continue posting things like that.

Sounds like he's still processing everything that happened with his ex and that's understandable as well. Maybe he could do so a little more privately? Maybe therapy? Everyone processes stuff differently, but like I said just because he related to it doesn't mean he has to repost it.

hes unhealed and highly resentful also i would not at all br ok with him reposting his ex a super hot bad b hes so consumed in anger he didn't even consider how this post would effect you