Anybody else prefer when their BF/SO’s side of the family isn’t around? That includes mil, fil, my children’s older half siblings ,doesn’t matter all of them

The vibe has never been right with this family. It’s been 3 years and 2 kids and still nothing. Haven’t been able to bond with them. They’re always in a crisis, always in a bad mood etc. Makes me sad that I have to share my kids with them tbh which is an awful thing to say I know. Started preferring them all to just not be around. Even if that means missing out on my kids and their life. Like they made last Christmas so miserable and this year I’m making sure nones coming over. I’d rather have a happy home tbh. Selfish I guess but I’d rather not go insane so idc

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Also this post is more so geared towards those couples who aren’t married. So no ‘real’ obligation to the partners family, other than to try which I’ve done now for 3 years now..

I've been with my husband 9 years, our oldest is 5 & 2nd is infant currently. We built a relationship of solid ground before we had kids so for me I can't get enough of my husband's family compared to mine.. & his is CRAZY. like non stop drama, bullshit, bat shit crazy. But they are the realest people I've ever met. They are very close. Like I can easily call his mom when he's at work kind of close, & go pick her up to come do laundry at our house while I make us coffee & she snuggles my kids, we talk all day close. ❤️ but again I do think there's something to be said when you are with someone for a short time then have kids. We were together 4 years prior to our kids. & I hated his mom for the first 3 years 🤣

Wow I can relate. Haha my in laws are so nice and sweet but they are a fucked up old school traditional marriage and I feel like they try to advocate for that and I don’t like it

You're not selfish for wanting to keep negative energy out of your home. Protect your home and children's environments. Don't let their energy fuck with your children's development, mama bear!!!!

We only see my husband's parents regularly. His brothers & their partners & kids we only see at special occasions.

in our community

No sitter but cant let myself go into postpartum depression

Brought my little girl to my lash appointment she was so well behaved thank god !!!! Any other mamas end up bringing their kid to their maintenance appointments ?

Am I doing something wrong?

I went for brunch with a new mum friend, both our little boys are 7 months. My LO would not sit at and tbh he rarely does, he had just had a feed and nap, I also offered him a banana which he had half of and convinced him to play with multiple toys but he either wanted to bounce on my lap or for me to walk around with him and eventually got cranky/whingy. I wasn’t able to finish my food. The other LO was sitting calmly the whole time and chewing on his teether. I even offered my LO a teether. Am I doing something wrong, am I spoiling him by picking him up constantly if he’s not crying and just whinging 😅

Has the new government rules on screen time stressed anyone else out?

Screen time reliance was already stressing me but I'm home alone as many of us are...I have no village and a very full on and demanding boy. My son is 19 months and in a really hard phase whinging and clingy wise....we don't do iPads and tablets (unless I absolutely have to if he's throwing an absolute fit having a nappy change and I don't want shit all over the wall!)
We do however end up doing teletubbies and dancing fruits during "high stress times" of the day. Usually cooking or if he's having an awful meltdown...popping teletubbies on means he smiles and relaxes, and I can get our food cooked and the kitchen tidy.
In the evening we allow him another half hour whilst we make food if he's in a particularly demanding mood and wanting to be held the entire time. Then we switch off teletubbies and put something soft like quiz shows or comedy on for my partner and I and we play with our son at the same time. He usually zones the TV out if it's not his program.
I feel so guilty for every second of screen time now. By the time he's finally gone to bed at 9-10pm (he fights sleep like crazy) I just have to fall into bed myself. My partner can stay up watching his TV but I can't make it past 10 (proof that being a stay at home mum is harder than a regular job much!?)

Is yogurt enough breakfast for a 7month old?

I'm really struggling with weaning and feeling like I'm failing my child.

I've always just been a cereal for breakfast skip lunch kinda person.

If you have advice or easy ideas please drop them below.

I'm also struggling with PPD so I'm really struggling with motivation when it comes to cooking etc.

Husbands attitude..

I’m unhappy with the way my partner acts with our son. So before we had kids he was the most chilled, fun loving person & I thought what a breath of fresh air compared to my ex who was an abusive narcissist!

However since we’ve bought a house and had our son (he’s 4) it’s like he can’t handle parenting.
His fuse has become short & the last few months he just seems to lose his temper at our son & me over the smallest things. I understand kids are frustrating and we all shout at times but he screams in his face and it really upsets our son & honestly it makes me so sad that he gets so angry over trivial things, often I have to step in & take over cos I’m worried he might smack him or something.

I’m a SAHM and so I’m with my son every day yet I can control myself. I’m more laid back (he’s my 2nd child) maybe cos I’ve been here before. I feel maybe as he was brought up with an Asian father who was quite strict it’s given him high expectations of expected behaviour?
I have spoken to him about how I’m not happy with it & that he should walk away but he just gets defensive and throws his dummy out the pram!
What’s your partner like with discipline? Do they shout and do you ever disagree with the way they are?

USA people - have you ever personally experienced a school shooting?

we talk about moving over there every now and again but in our heads it’s so risky, even if the education system was good, to send kids to school over there