How do you deal with your sassy 3 year old???

Mine is 2 and I'm in the same boat. I'm kind of at my wits end. She is starting to hit and when I tell her that it isn't nice to hit she just laughs. I don't know who she gets it from, but my parents watch her a lot when I'm at work. If they're condoning it then I'd like to know. I have to set some boundaries and if they won't respect it then I'll have someone else watch her until they will.

What all have you tried and what have been her reactions? Just curious.

I definitely made it clear what our relationship was from the beginning, like yes we can joke around and be silly. But if I hear her telling an adult a command even playfully like “okay, now DONT talk about that again” I would tell her gently but firmly saying “uhm, no ma’am we do not tell adults what to do” and I have to prevent her from being bossy to her siblings as well like. “Little miss, do not tell your brother what to do, that is mommy’s job. Brother isn’t going to like being told what to do by his sister.” There was a time she was really upset and fussy with her dad at nap time bc we had to take her away from playing with grandma. But I took her to the hallway after, just me and her, and I talked to her about how I understand that it can be frustrating to have to stop playing, but we do this every night, it’s not a surprise for us, because we can expect to get ready for bed every night. She huffed a little but I think it helps to explain things out so they’re not as frustratd

I feel like any attitude I’ve seen, I’ve been super alert to try and nip it in the bud. Bc ik a girls sass can get out of hand. 🙋‍♀️ sometimes my girl huffs and folds her arms, but I think she’s just thinking something is unfair. So I try my best to explain to her why things are the way they are. But yeah I don’t let her talk to me or adults any sort of way.

Time out doesn't teach them anything so wouldn't work anyway.

Minimal reactions other than a simple that's now how we talk, that's not how we ask etc I also won't do what she's asking unless she asks nicely. I repeat what I actually want her to say ie "mummy please can I have a snack".

If she's hitting I take her hands, let her know we use gentle hands and that I won't let her hit me. If it continues I move away.

Hii Azie ☺️ your little mama is soo cutee!

My little mama is 15 months and the sass is just starting 😭

I came from a “whooping family” And her dad and I are big on finding other solutions. We try to talk to her when she’s having a tantrum. For example if she wants something, she’s crying for it, I’ll remind her that she doesn’t have to cry and that she can use words to tell mommy what she wants. I’ll tell her the word to use and she calms down and repeats it.

But now she’s getting a little older and just into not listening when she feels like it 🤦🏾‍♀️ so although I don’t whoop her I have started give her little taps just to let her know that mommy won’t just keep talking, and eventually she will get in “real trouble”. It more hurts her feelings from being disciplined because I make sure I don’t hurt her.

I’m seeing a change in her behavior. I still have to repeat myself but she’s starting to not full on ignore us 😭😂

Im in the same boat and it’s like arguing with a mini me, why does my daughter have to have my sass 😩 I know that’s not helpful but I do “threaten” her (like if she doesn’t do this then I’m not going to do that for her) and I tell her that if I said or talked to her the way she just talked to me would she like it? 10/10 times my kid will always say no so I try to teach her that if she doesn’t want someone to treat/talk to her like that then she doesn’t get to treat/talk to others like that. When she sasses me I tell her that I’m her mother and she doesn’t get to talk to me like that, then she apologizes but sometimes when I get her to do something she goes “okay fine” it’s so frustrating but also soo funny to me.