Do you and your partner/husband split bills, mortgage etc?

Is he not working? That’s wild he only gives you that little and inconsistently

I run it all but tell him what I need. I don't wait for him to think about it. I know he gets paid Wednesdays so if I know a bill is coming up I tell him Wednesday hey when your check deposits, send me $X and he does it. Up until July we both worked full time, I have always done the majority at home bc he works long hours in construction and sometimes even has a commute as far as 4 hours away from home. I'm returning to work next week and dreading it. But I'll be glad to contribute financially again so we aren't penny pinching.

My husband makes significantly more then I do. He pays the mortgage and the car insurance and I pay all the utilities and my car payment. We both buy groceries.

Both our salaries go into the joint account and bills come from there so it's all our money. There's no splitting or his and hers.

We do have our own fun money but again, that's the same amount each (despite a salary difference) and it comes from the joint pot.

How have you managed to have 2 kids with this guy when you have no financial plan in place? Did you not discuss how things were going to be paid after your first child?

How is he living with you and paying fuck all towards anything? How have you even put up with this for so long?? Where is his money going??

Sounds like you have either a third child or a squatter. Either way, you can hardly call him a “partner”.

When I’m working we split it by income. My husband pays 80% of all expenses because he makes more than me. I pay the rest. While I’ve been a stay at home mom he pays for everything.

We split bills (incl mortgage) equally, and anything for our child, but I did pay the down payment on our house years back. It made sense at the time given I had the savings- kinda regret it now if I’m honest, I feel it put us in a slightly odd place, but it’s done now.

We split all bills. We have a shared account that each of our half of payments gets direct deposited into each month and then all of our bills are pulled from that account.

Tell him to get his own place, he will realize quickly

My husband and I make the same. He covers his school loans and truck while I do the same for my school and car. For the house, he pays for mine and his health insurance, I've been covering the kids, then I cover electric and groceries. Rent is included in our deal with the farm we work for. I also do all the cleaning, appointments, cooking, etc. It's very I've sided and very much weighing on the relationship. The more I think about what he contributes the more annoyed I get

My husband pays for more than half and I pay maybe 2-3 bills and they’re super small lol…. However, I save my money and if we need anything huge like a refrigerator, AC, car bill, or whatever I pay for that.

As it’s your house, I’d ask him to pay towards gas, electric, water, internet etc. I don’t believe he should pay towards your mortgage, as if you split, the house will still be solely yours.

The house we live in is mine (no mortgage left) but he pays for all the services we need and also for everything that needs to be fix in the house. He pays pretty much everything for me and for our kid. We both work full time. My money fully goes into savings for vacations, familiar economy and projects.

My husband and I each have our own bank accounts and also a shared one. Each month we each have a predetermined amount we contribute to the joint account based on how much we make and all bills are paid from that account.

My husband makes more than I do, he pays the mortgage which is the biggest sum he pays out each month, his car, phone the gas and electric and food weekly for us. I pay the utilities like council tax, my car, tv/internet, water, phone etc. And top up of bits of groceries etc. He deals with the child’s savings each month and I contribute weekly to add into the pot X

As soon as we moved in together we got a joint account for bills and paid 50/50. Once we were married we started looking at buying a house, we got a second joint account and all our money goes into one account. It’s our money not mine and his. I earn ALOT more so it takes away the resentment of me having more disposable income after bills are paid

He sounds like a child and I’d get out of there sooner rather than later!

Everything is entirely shared. WE have a monthly income as a family and WE pay all our bills, it doesn't matter who earns what

I work 3 days a week and my husband works 5. We don't split it 50/50 because I don't earn as much but we split it fairly according to our salaries. We both then pay that into our joint account which pays for all those things rather than either of us paying for particular things.

When we first got together and he then moved into my house (he was renting previously), he set up a standing order to cover just over half the bills (he was earning more so insisted on paying a bit more) to my account. We've since bought a house together under both our names. Your partner needs to seriously step up.

Me and my partner have our own accounts and a joint account . We put the same montly sum in there and all the bills.go.from there. When we do the food shop one of us pays then we add it up., split in half and whoever didnt pay gives the person who paid half.

Seems to work for us

I wouldn’t want to pay towards a mortgage on a house that isn’t mine, but I’d pay my share of all the bills and anything to do with the kids.

We just have a joint account and all our money is ours. We are married so not sure if that makes a difference? The house is also both of ours.

Does he work? What does he do with all his money? If he isn't working why on earth isn't he doing the majority of the household chores to take the pressure off you?

Without me being rude is there a point to staying together? He should contribute if he’s living there. Sorry to be blunt. He’s an adult at the end of the day x

We both put everything we earn in our joint account and then after bills and expenses are all paid, we split what’s left so we each have a bit to spend as we like. When I’m on maternity leave, my husband will pay for about 90% of our expenses to cover my loss of earning while looking after baby

I’m currently on maternity so he’s paying 85% at the minute because of how low mat pay is.
Usually we split the bills 70/30 as he earns more than me, so we’ve worked it out on a percentage. It means we both have abit of our own money to spend. He also helps with the children, but I’m primary parent 😊

We don’t split. We give based on what each person is capable of at the moment.

My partner pays majority only because I work part time If I was full time we should split xx

We have a joint account where 80% of our pay automatically goes to (and the remaining 20% go to our personal accounts). All bills are paid from our joint account. But we also split childcare equally. My husband does everything I do from cooking to taking care of our daughter (getting her up and ready for daycare, breakfast, dropping her at daycare, picking her up, cooking dinner, bathing and getting her to bed). There isn’t something I do that he doesn’t and vice versa.

Me and my partner split the bills based % of earnings so even though he earns more/ pays more out then me it works out we both are paying 50% of the bills each.

Sounds like you have a 3rd child

Sorry what? Why is he giving ‘you’ anything? He should be paying the bills because he’s a grown adult and living in the house not because he owes you 🤨

We combine our salaries - all bills and split what’s left so we have some money each to do whatever we want with - if he doesn’t bring anything positive to your life then leave him!

He’s having a ride. Ok understand if he does not want to pay towards the mortgage but the utilities and your everything for your shared children? He’s laughing, he should want to provide for them at the very least, along with meet their needs and do stuff with them.

I stay home full time and my husband pays for everything. When they start school, I plan to go back to work.

It depends if this is working for you and how much he is making. If he’s making a lot more than this and you need more, communicate and work out a greater contribution from him.

That does not seem reasonable at all! If they aren’t his children and your partner joined your family later I would still expect a fair contribution to household bills, perhaps not childcare costs. If they are his children and he is earning money (assuming he is able to work and not unwell or any other unfortunate circumstances impacting his ability to contribute) then he should absolutely be contributing 50/50.

My husband and I both own the house together so pre-children we contributed 50/50 but I had more savings from inherited money and gifted money so I paid a larger share of the deposit and also our wedding. Since having children, my husbands earnings have increased and mine decreased due to maternity leave and part time working so he now pays more than me, we don’t work it out exactly but it’s roughly proportional to our earnings and we aren’t critical of each others spending or counting who paid what. We see our money and time as both contributing to our family equitably

Don’t marry this man with the way your financial set up is at the moment. He needs to do more financially or taking care of kids. My husband pays majority of bills and mortgage whilst I’m off on maternity leave with our second child but it is our joint house financially.

We have 1 account where both our money goes into. He manages it and pays all the bills. I also have a salon and he pays those bills too. If we need to spend money outside regular stuff then we just communicate with each other on what we need to buy. We typically don’t spend crazy money anyways unnecessarily.

The money we earn is 'ours' not his and mine. It's all shared

Everything comes into one account and goes out the same. We just share everything and couldn't imagine it being any other way x

We split it by what we can afford. I’m a higher earner so I contribute more. We both benefit from it so it’s both of our money really. People should contribute what they can in my opinion. Having money of your own is important too (for both parties)

My husband is a SAHD but he still picks up a shift now and then at his old job for babysitting money lol

I contribute more but this is because I earn much more and he had to change his hours 3 days a week, so I could even take my job x once you have kids, I dont think its fair to share everything 50/50, in my opinion if you earn more you contribute more. We both send most of our salaries into the joint account.