Advice?

I'm currently living and paying 400 dollars a month in rent to stay at my friend's house my son's. We don't have a rooms to ourselves we are sleeping in the living room. I do pay rent which is 400 dollars a month not counting 500 dollars worth of foodstamps to help keep food in here. I'm having a hard time always being the one cleaning dishes that my friend will allow to sit in the sink for days sometimes weeks at a time. She has a disable son that wear pull ups and she doesn't check on him like she should and he never has clean sheets on his bed. I'm cleaning up behind her and her children. Anytime I complain to her she never does anything wrong. Her husband told her she was to help me and my son straighten up the fire place and all she done was laugh and walk away leaving me and my son to do it. With me paying rent do I have the right to complain to her? Cause I'm not getting it any time you say anything to her she claims she is being attacked and she doesn't deserve to be attacked. I just need help how to approach this situation

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Did you sign a contract? Because that would be your legal tool to force a change based on what was agreed to. Without that, it’s just harder to do.

This is her house and they’re charging you rent but acting like you’re a maid? That sucks. Like it super sucks she doesn’t clean up after herself and doesn’t take care of her kid. I’m honestly so sorry you’re going through all this and having to take care of her child and do this extra work.

And I hate to say that from a legal standpoint it’s not sounding like she is going far enough for it to be abuse to her child. Which means no legal action can be taken.

The issue with being a slob is that it isn’t a crime. Yes living with dirty dishes is gross but it’s not a crime.

It might come down to one of those “just find a way to move out” situations. I recognize this isn’t all that helpful. But without any legal way to force change, and her already not listening to you, I don’t see a solid way for you to get the change you want to see.

I do my part it just makes me mad because I message her Everytime I do the dishes and I do them all in one go. There are roaches here now because she leaves uncleaned dishes in the sink.. I told her that she needs to wash them every day especially with regular milk being in her son's cups because that could make him sick. I have pretty much tried everything but nothing is getting done like it should. I clean my area all the time. I have went as far as making sure her son has cleaned sheets for his bed but she doesn't make him use the bathroom and complains when she has to change his sheets. I have a disable child myself so it's hard for me to take care of mine on top of taking care of hers and making sure she gets up and does her parental duties

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Is it bad of me to think this or no?

My husband has been abroad for work (1 day and exploring for 1 day) for 2 and a half days which means I’ve had both kids (1 year and 4 year old) for 2 and a half days plus cooking, cleaning, taking them to clubs, bedtimes!
He came home late afternoon and said I’m so tired, I just need to chill. I said can you wash up whilst I sort kids dinner out, he said he’ll do it later which means he won’t do it and I’ll end up doing it so I said no do it now please otherwise I’ll end up doing it and he said well you have been home and I’ve been away so you’ve just been relaxing.
Don’t know what planet he is on but having the kids alone for 2.5 days is not relaxing. I was stressed!

When he was away, I did miss him and wanted him to come back but now he’s back, I want him to go away again😂
Is that bad?

Feeding

My son is coming up to five months and I just started giving him oatmeal and rice cereal. When can you start trying veggies or fruits? I only give him the oatmeal or rice cereal once a day right now which is what the paediatrician had said to do. I’m just curious to when anybody tried anything else with their kids cause my son eats a lot of formula and he’s VERY curious when I eat.

Really bothered by this

A friend posted this and it really bothers me because that is exactly how she parents her kid, and it's rather unfortunate because when our kids hang out together, her kid has a meltdown at least 5x within an hour. We have know them for years and it's only gotten worse. My kids will concede to hers, because they don't want to see their friend crying, but it sucks because they give up so much of their toys and enjoyment to keep the peace. We aren't hanging out as much anymore but it's rather sad to think she doesn't intervene more in her child tantrums and just let's it slide

Is this normal

Let’s say you’re at a softplay with your 2 year old, and some friends & their toddlers.
You buy your 2 year old a kids meal - chicken nuggets, beans, and chips. They’re very happy with it and have almost eaten it all.
They’re sat at the table, fork in hand, consistently eating, and have one chicken nugget left.
Your adult friend comes over from behind you, picks up the last chicken nugget, and eats it.
There was no indication that your child wasn’t going to eat it, and they didn’t ask. They just took it with no warning and ate it right in front of you and your toddler.
How you reacting?

Shift worker daddies - advice please?

My husband works shifts (6am-6pm days or 6pm-6am nights) so when he’s on shift we either get about an hour or 2 before he goes to work or an hour or 2 when we gets home with him.

I don’t think people who aren’t married/have babies with shift workers fully understand the impact of feeling like a solo parent sometimes.

Does anyone have any advice? I do have parents who can help but I struggle to leave my baby with others as I always feel like they don’t understand the need for tracking wake windows or feeds and our baby will not sleep unless we black out a room or go for a car drive . Everyone seems to think ‘if he’s tired he’ll drop off’ - no he’ll just get overtired and have to then pay for it during his night sleep. So I feel like it’s just easier for me to do it all myself.

When my husbands off work he is great but I do take the mental load of telling him what to do or even reminding him of wake windows etc because he’s not here and forgets routines. He’s also being tested for ADHD currently so there’s that on top of shift work.

Just looking for advice on how to stay sane/keep routines or share loads with shifts workers?

Thank you ❤️

Are these men ok?

I get so sad seeing all the posts on here daily about women dealing with partners who are treating them horribly. I know it seems over represented because those of us with great partners don’t need to write posts asking for help, but I really hope most of us don’t have these kinds of men in our lives!

I tell my husband about these posts I see sometimes and he’s even shocked by some of the things these guys say/do.

Nobody’s perfect, and every relationship takes work. And becoming parents is a stress test unlike any other for sure, but seeing how many women get stuck in these relationships with men who aren’t interested in being better is so so sad😞

But is/was your partner helpful, loving, and supportive during your pregnancy/PP/etc? Was he a wonderful person but changed for the worst after becoming a parent? Has he put effort into becoming the partner you need him to be, even if he struggles?