Could you forgive? Or even continue to love?

Your husband physically hurt an animal on purpose, he would not be allowed around my children ever again.

We are called to forgive. Forgiveness doesn’t automatically mean reconciliation. So we must and should forgive especially because we won’t be forgiven by Yahweh in return.

That said, while I understand your pain, I don’t think this would be a biblical reason for divorce. I’m sure you love your pets and what he did was wrong but this remains a pet. Is your husband willing or working towards fixing his anger issues? Is he actively praying for his own healing? Does he have leaders he is accountable to?

First off, I am so sorry for what you are going through. That is so unbelievably sad. Second, I can't tell you what yo do in your marriage but I can say, if you stay you should demand that he gets help. If he is causing physical harm to animals, then the next stage will be you or the kids. It's how mental illness works. It either gets better or worse. Tell him he needs to work on this, or he can not be around the kids. If he loves them, and I'm betting he does, he will agree. If he doesn't, then you need to make sure the kids are safe and, at a minimum, not allow him around them alone. I'm not saying he's some horrible monster, things are never that black and white, but he is dangerous.

First and foremost my heart goes out to you for going through this all the while having to protect 4 children. I do agree with Bethany, he needs professional help. Otherwise you and your kids are not safe. Not even in an immediate sense of him hurting you, but the physiological and emotional trauma of being around this energy and aggression can affect you and your kids long term. My father was an aggressive alcoholic. To this day a slammed door sends my body into fight or flight, and he never laid a hand on me. He did my mother, and it was always the same story… I’ll change, I’ll get better, I’ll go to church. He’d start to fall back into the same patterns, and the more times my mother forgave, the more frequent the incidents became.

I do believe you can forgive, but you need to set boundaries and stay true to them. You can help, but know that true change does not come unless that person is ready is willing to do it for themselves. I think you should also seek guidance from someone

… you trust. To help you in this situation and help you see clearly. It’s that much harder to know how to handle the situation when you have others dependent on you as well. Praying for you and your family. I hope he finds his healing. 🙏🏻

It won't let me respond to your questions so I'll write it here. God is loving and just and so I believe He is okay with you living separate with your husband until he is safe to be around both physically and emotionally for you and your children. Forgiveness means that we don't require repayment. It doesn't mean that we put ourselves in unsafe situations just because someone days they're sorry. God would not want you or your children to live in a house that is unsafe. I'll be praying for your family. ❤️

First pray to the Lord! You must forgive everyone no matter what it is. When Jesus walked this Earth he forgave the Pharisees and Judas. He washed Judas’s feet knowing he would betray him. And God Forgives us each and everyday and we all deserve to be punished, so not forgiving is like saying that we are above the Lord in giving Grace. Have a conversation with your husband about your concerns, pray with him each and every day and cast the demon of anger out of him.

Don’t split up over ur pet. He is asking for forgiveness, u should forgive him. Pray that Jesus helps u forgive him.

Splitting won’t be hard on them but staying will.