Christmas tree accident

Well it finally happened. I look away for a split second and our christmas tree fell on my 22 month old. Luckily he wasn't hurt and only 2 ornaments fell and broke. I feel like such a shitty mom and on top of it my husband yelled at me. Is there any safe way to protect toddler from the tree?

Read more on Peanut

The views expressed in community are solely the opinions of participants, and do not reflect those of Peanut.

Learn more about our guidelines.

Add a comment

Alright so….
1) accidents happen it will not be the first or last time one ever occurs especially being knee deep in the toddler years

2) Let that guilt slide off you like water off a ducks back, you didn’t intentionally make a Christmas tree fall on your toddler.

They’re gonna explore every new thing ever put in front of them in these years.

We got our girls a Step2 tree they can physically play with that we set up for them to play with. We haven’t had an issue since my oldest daughter was one.

Just constantly remind him don’t touch the tree, give diversions, if it doesn’t work try baby gating it off.

Trial and error…all of motherhood is trial and error. You’re not a shitty mom. Breath and problem solve BUT MOST IMPORTANTLY KNOW; you should never feel shitty about being a mom. There is no room for those thoughts.

Awww don’t be too hard on yourself mama🫶 accidents happen & your husband should be understanding about that cuz no one deserves to feel worse about a simple mistake. Personally I can’t afford anything specifically to block my tree from my 16M old but I am using my couch & end table in a very particular way until Christmas Day when I put everything under it 😂 it’s just was works for us rn tbh

When my little sister was almost the same age as your son, she did the exact same thing. She's 23 years old now and that one moment was a drop in the bucket of her life. The same could be said for your son. He's got so many more mistakes, destruction, and near misses ahead of him. That's not only just toddler stuff, but that's life, and it is not a reflection of you as a parent. Short of putting him in a bubble you won't always be there to prevent things from happening. We baby proof the best we can, but toddlers are so... creative??? 😂

I think it's normal to feel mom guilt when something goes wrong because we want to protect our babies. I think this is especially difficult if your partner wasn't supportive, but this is one moment in a lifetime of moments and the *most important* piece of all this is that he's safe.

I dropped my little brother like 3 times when he was little I tjink he turned out alright tho he takes all honors and ap classes 😅 i might have blessed him with a good brain

You should not feel guilty its completely normal for toddlers to be all over the place and act crazy and if ur husband was at home he has just as much blame too . And no reason to yell at u

I straight up threw the scenario to my husband of the "what if" and said your situation and he said he would have yelled at our baby for touching things he shouldn't be grabbing . Understanding that they might still.be young but should also learn right from wrong

in our community

Is it bad of me to think this or no?

My husband has been abroad for work (1 day and exploring for 1 day) for 2 and a half days which means I’ve had both kids (1 year and 4 year old) for 2 and a half days plus cooking, cleaning, taking them to clubs, bedtimes!
He came home late afternoon and said I’m so tired, I just need to chill. I said can you wash up whilst I sort kids dinner out, he said he’ll do it later which means he won’t do it and I’ll end up doing it so I said no do it now please otherwise I’ll end up doing it and he said well you have been home and I’ve been away so you’ve just been relaxing.
Don’t know what planet he is on but having the kids alone for 2.5 days is not relaxing. I was stressed!

When he was away, I did miss him and wanted him to come back but now he’s back, I want him to go away again😂
Is that bad?

Feeding

My son is coming up to five months and I just started giving him oatmeal and rice cereal. When can you start trying veggies or fruits? I only give him the oatmeal or rice cereal once a day right now which is what the paediatrician had said to do. I’m just curious to when anybody tried anything else with their kids cause my son eats a lot of formula and he’s VERY curious when I eat.

Really bothered by this

A friend posted this and it really bothers me because that is exactly how she parents her kid, and it's rather unfortunate because when our kids hang out together, her kid has a meltdown at least 5x within an hour. We have know them for years and it's only gotten worse. My kids will concede to hers, because they don't want to see their friend crying, but it sucks because they give up so much of their toys and enjoyment to keep the peace. We aren't hanging out as much anymore but it's rather sad to think she doesn't intervene more in her child tantrums and just let's it slide

Is this normal

Let’s say you’re at a softplay with your 2 year old, and some friends & their toddlers.
You buy your 2 year old a kids meal - chicken nuggets, beans, and chips. They’re very happy with it and have almost eaten it all.
They’re sat at the table, fork in hand, consistently eating, and have one chicken nugget left.
Your adult friend comes over from behind you, picks up the last chicken nugget, and eats it.
There was no indication that your child wasn’t going to eat it, and they didn’t ask. They just took it with no warning and ate it right in front of you and your toddler.
How you reacting?

My 2 year old won’t eat nothing but snacks

Is this normal ? He won’t even try anything I eat .. he really only like pizza fries and spaghetti… nuggets and snacks bananas some other fruit but like anything else he won’t eat if try but I don’t want to force him I’m just I feel like bad I mean he isn’t losing weight I breastfeed mostly still

Shift worker daddies - advice please?

My husband works shifts (6am-6pm days or 6pm-6am nights) so when he’s on shift we either get about an hour or 2 before he goes to work or an hour or 2 when we gets home with him.

I don’t think people who aren’t married/have babies with shift workers fully understand the impact of feeling like a solo parent sometimes.

Does anyone have any advice? I do have parents who can help but I struggle to leave my baby with others as I always feel like they don’t understand the need for tracking wake windows or feeds and our baby will not sleep unless we black out a room or go for a car drive . Everyone seems to think ‘if he’s tired he’ll drop off’ - no he’ll just get overtired and have to then pay for it during his night sleep. So I feel like it’s just easier for me to do it all myself.

When my husbands off work he is great but I do take the mental load of telling him what to do or even reminding him of wake windows etc because he’s not here and forgets routines. He’s also being tested for ADHD currently so there’s that on top of shift work.

Just looking for advice on how to stay sane/keep routines or share loads with shifts workers?

Thank you ❤️