Abnormal speech - saying too much?

Starting to get a little concerned (and pissed off) with people saying my daughter’s speech and language skills are abnormal because of how advanced she is! She’s 20 months and can easily say over 100 words, she links 4-5 word sentences together, she adds adjectives to words in the correct sense (big, dirty, warm etc), can almost count to 10, knows quite a few colours and can take part in conversations pretty well. We know she’s ahead of the norm but is this a bad thing? She doesn’t go to any childcare settings yet so I have no professionals to ask but recently I just keep hearing the word abnormal from people which is quite upsetting. We’ve always spoken to her like an adult and just involved her in everything so just assumed she was a quick learner and quite advanced. Should we be concerned?

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Mm any advice how did you managed to teach. I need help mine son barely says 5 words. Also I don’t think it’s abnormal my cousin who is 2 yrs old was speaking like proper words.but if you conceded check it

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My little girl can speak quite well, she says a lot of words, no idea how many I stopped counting, she can count to 10 and say the alphabet and knows her shapes and colours. She cant say sentences yet but she can sing full nursery rhymes 🤣

There's nothing wrong with being "abnormal" if shes just advanced in her speech.

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Honestly is sounds like they're juat jealous, which is so silly, but people have stupid high expectations for their kids and when other kids perform "better" they take it as personal competition.

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I agree it does sound a bit like jealousy, I wouldn't say it's abnormal at all! Kids all learn at their own pace. My girl is a really good talker to, prob nearing on 150-200 words, but on the other hand she didn't walk until 15 months 😊 where as I know some other babies who were walking at 9 months but still don't say much. Don't listen to the people saying it's abnormal, it's prob just different to what they've experienced, doesn't make it abnormal 🩷

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I get these comments a lot I think they just don’t expect that amount of speech to come out of someone so little. I get it even worse because she’s the size of a 9 month old but running around talking like she’s 2.5 so people are really confused by her😂

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I can relate, although I dont get the abnormal comments as my bubba is very tall for his age so passes for a much older child. Hes 19months and is about the same level of speech as yours. People are often just shocked that hes so young and get me to repeat his age just to check i've got right 😅🤦‍♀️ I would honestly not be worried and be proud of your little speech wizz! I find that people will have somthing to say no matter what they are or are not doing xxx

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I was supposedly fully conversional at 14 months according to my mum and aunt.

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I think even though it's hard you need to stop listening to all the background noise. 'People' will never be happy - abnormal because she speaks enough, or baby doesn't speak enough, too big, too small, eats too much, doesn't eat enough, etc, etc... I have a family that is constantly like that, luckily they live in another country. I also used to get loads of comments about my son, mainly his size.. but to be honest, there is no normal or abnormal, they are all different and unique. And people should keep their opinions and insensitive comments to themselves. Sick of it.

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