Are bisexual people not allowed to have friends?

If men and women shouldn't be friends due to whatever potential for attraction/action, should bisexual people avoid friends of either/any/all genders?

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literally this lmao that’s why i don’t understand men/women not being allowed to be friends. bisexual people would be completely isolated in our relationships and that is not okay. if you don’t trust your partner being friends with someone who is the gender they are attracted to then you shouldn’t be with them. and if you feel that way about anyone you’re with no matter how trustworthy they are then you need to work on yourself before getting into a relationship.

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It took everything in me not to select yes as a joke lol

This is why I appreciate my fiancé so much because he would probably laugh at me if I was like idk babe *insert any friends nae here* is pretty hot you sure I can be around them😅
Some people really think we be out here humping anyone that walks by

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Bi people can do whatever they want and be friends with whoever they want, as can anyone else.
In my relationship neither of us are bi so we agreed not to have any friendships with people of the opposite sex. We are friendly with people of the opposite sex but we would not have friendships because a friendship includes private conversations and alone time.

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If you asked my ex she’d say we shouldn’t be allowed lol but we all deserve friends!

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Exactly that if my hubby was an insecure controlling possessive toxic narc I wouldn’t have any friends. Coz I have both guy and girl friends. Do I find some my gf attractive hell yeah they are gorgeous women inside and out but that doesn’t mean I wanna kiss them or bed them lol. Same goes for my guy friends some are really good looking, attractive. But platonic is all it is w me because I have utmost respect for my partner and boundaries for myself. He has never shown insecurity when it comes to my guy friends because he knows I’m not attracted to them in THAT way, they aren’t my type to date (even though they are attractive) and I would never cross that line. I came across a post here the other day and in the comments her bf didn’t even allow her other women/mum friends! Like wth. No wonder she’s lonely AF. 😬

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I think its a grey line. I don't think men and women should be close friends, I think like a work friend or like a casual parent friend if their kids hangout is fine. I'm bi myself and I don't feel comfortable being friends with men, but me and my spouse are cool with me having female friends.

I think the difference also comes from the fact that men seem to consistently have issues with boundaries when they are attracted to someone. Women typically have more respect for that kind of stuff. At least that's been my experience in life. I think stuff like that is definitely a situational thing. Every couple has to make those decisions for their relationship.ive personally had multiple male friends flirt and cross boundaries while they know I'm in a relationship. I however have never had a female friend who's bi/lesbian cross boundaries or flirt when they know I'm in a relationship

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Lmao I'm so glad someone said this. I don't get it. I don't get why people are so insecure they can't trust their partner around other people. My husband is bi. I know he will not cheat. He will never cheat. I trust him. I've never even felt inclined to look at his phone (it's all work, anyway). He won't cheat with a man, he won't cheat with a woman, neither will I. He's had female friends, male friends, I've had male and female friends. He has admitted to having a huge crush on Tyler Hoechlin and we laughed together when he met the guy at Comicon over how flustered he was. I asked him jokingly if I had to be worried and he deadpanned something like "Oh 100%." He also told me about a vendor who was hardcore flirting with him. I just don't care. My husband has been in all kinds of situations, men and women coming on to him, and he's rock solid. We've been together 17 years. He is my person, I'm his, and I give negative fucks how many female or male friends he has.

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That's just silly in saying that they can't be friends with either gender. Is their partner that insecure, that they need to control their friendship circle?

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