Baby fell off the bed

My 11 month old fell off the bed for the first and last time. We were asleep, and I don't know how it happened. I thought I was dreaming at first. He hit the floor (no carpet) and I immediately picked him up. My mom who is visiting ran into the room to help me. My husband sleeps downstairs. He first moved out of the bedroom when baby was a newborn. So since back then, we've been cosleeping. I was so distraught and trying to comfort the baby while my mom was trying to comfort me. She let me know that accidents happen and that it's okay and to give the baby something for the pain. I gave him Tylenol. He cried for maybe five minutes. It was hell for me. I felt so guilty. I still do.
I thought about going to the ER or the pediatrician. But baby started to smile again and was behaving normally.

So I texted my husband to have him come upstairs when he woke up.

He let me know that I broke his trust by saying that the baby wouldn't fall off the bed. He said it was my fault and was telling me to take responsibility. I told him how bad I felt, and that I obviously didn't do it on purpose. He said why don't I take care of my son instead of not taking responsibility for what happened. (Wow. Now that I see this in text format it looks really bad.) I started crying all over again. Worse than when the baby fell.
I was shaking and crying. And the baby was crying too because by this time he was sleepy again. I told him if something happened to baby on his watch, I wouldn't respond the way he was.

He didn't care that I was crying. It took me back to the day I gave birth to my son. I was in labour and didn't know it and even then he was making me cry.
I'm putting this here cause I need an outlet.

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That must have been scary and upsetting. It’s clear how much you love your baby. Accidents happen, and you didn’t deserve to be spoken to that way ❤️

I don’t want to speak ill of your husband- I don’t know your full relationship- but these two examples of the way he’s treated you is very disrespectful of him. Life is stressful enough with a child without turning on each other. Does baby ever sleep with him, or just you? This could just as easily happened with him. I’m sure he’s not a perfect parent.
I’m glad your baby is ok! My son is only 2 months, but one of the first things my sister said to me was “and your baby will fall out of the bed, at some point”. I thought that was peculiar, but since joining mommy groups, I realize it’s actually quite common.
Keep your head up, momma!

My baby is 9mos and has fallen off the bed like 3-4x 😭😭😭😭

He’s wrong to be so hard on you. Please take this incident and think about how you can stand up for yourself better so that he backs down next time, then keep at it until he stops guilting you over mistakes and accidents. Sometimes I wonder if men get like this because the moms have so much more control than they do.

I struggle with this too. It’s gotten a bit better. We have to be ferocious sometimes!

Also it’s not your fault. Be easy on yourself too.

I’m sorry it went down like that. Baby falls are always incredibly scary, but more babies fall off beds than we’ll ever know and they’re fine. My doctor once told me babies are built strong enough to survive new parents. Baby likely got very scared and then picked up on mama’s stress (a huge thing for little ones). Probably didn’t need any painkillers although it’s not bad that you gave it. Your husband however… he should be supporting you and helping you, not criticising you and saying you broke his trust, that trust bit is so inappropriate here... It’s really sad to read this. You haven’t done anything wrong but it sucks that your partner is not there to support you. The only correct way to respond would be to say you’re ok, baby’s ok, and sit down and figure out how he can help prevent that in the future. Like install a bedrail and remind you that you’re a great mum

Babies love to roll when they’re half asleep as a self regulation thing. It’s very common for first time moms to not realize the extent of it. It happens. I got a floor mattress immediately when it happened to us. I think you need to point out how it is a very common thing that happens, and that you are a great mom despite what he’s trying to say, and that you will take more precautions in the future like a floor bed.

Your husband shouldn't be that harsh towards you im sorry you had to hear that from someone that is supposed to be your support. I would add the baby barriers around the bed they have them on Amazon. Don't worry t much if baby is feeding normally and acting normal and alert. Your ok baby is okay accidents happen.
If your husband treating you this way is a reoccurring theme I would high suggest couples therapy or potentially wondering if staying together is a good idea. Most important thing for a baby is a man that treats mom welll. That being said I don't know your whole relationship only you can make the best choice for yourself and your baby. 🥰🩵

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My husband has been abroad for work (1 day and exploring for 1 day) for 2 and a half days which means I’ve had both kids (1 year and 4 year old) for 2 and a half days plus cooking, cleaning, taking them to clubs, bedtimes!
He came home late afternoon and said I’m so tired, I just need to chill. I said can you wash up whilst I sort kids dinner out, he said he’ll do it later which means he won’t do it and I’ll end up doing it so I said no do it now please otherwise I’ll end up doing it and he said well you have been home and I’ve been away so you’ve just been relaxing.
Don’t know what planet he is on but having the kids alone for 2.5 days is not relaxing. I was stressed!

When he was away, I did miss him and wanted him to come back but now he’s back, I want him to go away again😂
Is that bad?

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I have a 2 month old. A few weeks ago my husband crashed out because he didn't feel like he was getting to bond with her. I started exclusively breastfeeding around that time and honestly didnt see the big deal. Baby and I left for a few days and when we got back home, everything was fine. He was extremely hands-on. He helped with my meals, her bedtime, bath, stories.....for a few weeks it was great. Then he randomly sounds depressed af. He says our lo is better off without him, he wants to sleep all day , he asks me not to watch tv then tried playing a video game. He refused to reply to me when i asked any follow-up questions. Then he woke up our baby trying to race me to the bathroom first thing in the morning . He's doing a weird mix of crying, trying, and giving up. Im starting to feel like I cant handle him not being able to handle life with baby and just want to be alone. Are there resources for men?

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My son is coming up to five months and I just started giving him oatmeal and rice cereal. When can you start trying veggies or fruits? I only give him the oatmeal or rice cereal once a day right now which is what the paediatrician had said to do. I’m just curious to when anybody tried anything else with their kids cause my son eats a lot of formula and he’s VERY curious when I eat.

Really bothered by this

A friend posted this and it really bothers me because that is exactly how she parents her kid, and it's rather unfortunate because when our kids hang out together, her kid has a meltdown at least 5x within an hour. We have know them for years and it's only gotten worse. My kids will concede to hers, because they don't want to see their friend crying, but it sucks because they give up so much of their toys and enjoyment to keep the peace. We aren't hanging out as much anymore but it's rather sad to think she doesn't intervene more in her child tantrums and just let's it slide

My 2 year old won’t eat nothing but snacks

Is this normal ? He won’t even try anything I eat .. he really only like pizza fries and spaghetti… nuggets and snacks bananas some other fruit but like anything else he won’t eat if try but I don’t want to force him I’m just I feel like bad I mean he isn’t losing weight I breastfeed mostly still

Is this normal

Let’s say you’re at a softplay with your 2 year old, and some friends & their toddlers.
You buy your 2 year old a kids meal - chicken nuggets, beans, and chips. They’re very happy with it and have almost eaten it all.
They’re sat at the table, fork in hand, consistently eating, and have one chicken nugget left.
Your adult friend comes over from behind you, picks up the last chicken nugget, and eats it.
There was no indication that your child wasn’t going to eat it, and they didn’t ask. They just took it with no warning and ate it right in front of you and your toddler.
How you reacting?