Advice/honesty needed!

I’m a teen mama to a 3 months old(almost 4.) I am starting college to be an OBGYN sonographer next month. This program is very competitive and only accepts 10 students per year. It’s also one of the only schools in the nation that offers the career path. It’s a two year degree. I am very smart and don’t have to take as many classes due to credits I got in high school and I graduated with honors top of my class. My GPA never fell below a 3.8. Should I wait? If I don’t get in what do I do? I really don’t want to go for nursing because I would not enjoy that. I really don’t have time to waste. I need a job for my boy. I feel like if I fail I’m just going to waste my time and risk my chances of getting into the program ever. I’m currently living with my parents and they are forcing me to go. I feel defeated. Thanks in advance.

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Do you have a support system to help with your son? Mentally I think you need to believe you can do it to be successful. You already have proven to yourself that you can be successful in school so why should this be different? If your parents want you to do it then they must believe you can.

I think getting into that program would be great for you, and you should definitely try! Nursing or x-ray can be a pretty good fallback even if you don't think you'd enjoy them as much. As you mentioned, your priority needs to be to get a job that will pay your bills even if it isn't your dream job. You could always bounce back and try the sonography program again later since many of the credits will likely transfer.

I don't understand the situation with your parents though. They are forcing you to go where? Out of their house? Into the program? Their support, or some support is going to be critical. A sonography program is tough. I've done it. I can't imagine trying to make it through while caring for a little baby alone.

I would do the sonographer/OBGYN. You sound like you are all set with parents helping watch your baby so take advantage of that luxury. That sounds like an amazing opportunity. I don’t think parents should force you, but if you want it definitely do not wait.

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Is this normal?

Is it just my husband that does this? He is able to work from home via his computer and in the mornings and evenings he is on there doing his job. When he is done for the day he tends to stay in the room and either play video games or watch something. He will occasionally come out and play with the girls for a few minutes and that’s it but when I really need him he says he is busy. My daughters are both 1 year old now and I am just wondering how much involvement should he have with them now?
Idk if this is the norm or not…..

Saying NO to buying toys etc

5 year old is getting really envious of others. He is obsessed with items that other kids have at school. I am pestered daily to buy these things in a different style when we already have 3 others. I have seen parents just buying stuff their kid likes which I don't necessarily agree with even when i can afford it. How do you deal with it?

Daycare?

Thoughts on daycare?? Truly, I am SCARED to be leaving my kid for daycare. I literally do not trust anyone, not even family (they haven’t given me a reason it’s just trust issues on my end, you never know). He’s turning 3 and I’ve been a sahm the whole time but tbh my man doesn’t make enough for us to move out somewhere more calm . We live in a ‘not so safe’ area in LA and I’m just not used to living here so I just want us to give my son a better life and in order to speed up the process I would have to work.. I do lashes at home and I’d be open to take new clients so I wouldn’t have to look for work but I’m just scared to lose my license 😭

Thoughts?

your soon to be brother in law (upon inquiry) told you that only a few kids from the family were attending his wedding because they are over the age cut off..

Tablet for kids

Alright don’t need any negative Nancy’s telling me not to get my 2yo a tablet so if that’s what your gunna do please don’t participate in my poll.

We’re about to move cross country 3+ day trip and my 2yo and 9m hate the car I’m talking scream their heads off till they are out of their seats. We’ve already changed car seats and it didn’t help so I’d like to at least have one entertained and sit next to baby and try and distract her or put her to sleep. Our new car has tvs but since they are rear faced my 2yo can’t see it.

Debating getting her a tablet or dvd player right now on long car rides I end up giving her my phone because I get so overwhelmed sitting in between both of them screaming and crying.

And yes I do bring different toys I bring snacks I play songs try to distract her other ways but for the sake of not losing my mind on this move I think this is best.

-A very overwhelmed and anxious to move mama 😓

Separation Anxiety

My baby is nearly 6 months old and has just entered the separation anxiety stage… this evening I was trying to cook dinner whilst my husband was with the baby and he was just crying every time he couldn’t see me, with full blown hysterical sobbing, and as soon as he saw me again he started giggling and smiling. Any tips on how to stop this? And how long might this phase last?
My husband felt pretty disheartened and upset 😢