Am I missing something?

Little one is 11 months old and has just become so volatile is the only word I can think to describe it. Nappy changes screams, brushing teeth screams, getting changed, being cleaned up after meals, drying after baths, going to sleep, crying and crying everytime. Its getting my and dad down so much as she seems to unhappy so much of the time. She used to sleep well in cot and we have stayed at my in-laws where we have stayed loads for two nights for Xmas and she compete refused to sleep in the travel cot and ended up cosleeping which we have never done and I've not slept more than a few hours, last week or so shes cried so much at every sleep time and so fussy much of the day. She doesnt seem obviously unwell if not messing with one of her ears but nothing else appears an issue, she has had a major personality flip is this normal or possibly something going on? Thanks picture of the little monster who's always happy when eating aha

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We went through a stage of this around 10-11 months too. It lasted a couple of weeks but not too long for us thankfully!

I didn't really change anything just kept going with usual routines and things with lots of extra deep breaths and some internal screaming while trying not to give any extra attention to the behaviour (both positiveand negative attention can reinforce behavioursat this age).

We had another stage of it in the last month or so at 14-15months too and again she's gone back to her happy self. I'm guessing they just go through phases of this but it's definitely tough, good luck x

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Just be strong and don't take it personally. A child development psychologis once told me that a child will be very well behaved if a child is scared, for instance unsafe environment, and a child will unleash all demons when is feeling secure and safe x

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My boy is going to be 2 in Jan and only recently started cuddling . Until now he'd push me away, he'd run away if I tried to comfort him . He is stubborn and independent, cant explain or show him anything as he wants to figure it out by himself and he'll get upset if you try and correct him... the list just goes on and on lol
They test us, test different theories, they're learning but yes , I do understand how hard it gets

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Could be ear infection. Id go to the GP

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Teething sign is them grabbing ear.

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Mine is 11 months and has also started randomly screaming. Mostly around naps/bedtime - she’ll feed and be rocked for a bit and then might kick off for 5 minutes before falling asleep. Also randomly during play, she just starts screaming. She used to be so happy out and about in her pram, but now screams and cries randomly, even if not tired. Hoping it’s a phase, it makes me so sad

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