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Why is it that us moms usually neglect our own needs and make sure our kids have everything they need AND want but dads are just selfish as fuck?🥲🥲🥲🥲🥲😭😭😭😤 Like why is it CRAZY for me to want vitamins and soap for my body that costs LESS THAN all your weed you buy from the dispensary??? Oh and if you’re a stay at home mom you’re told “you don’t have a say so you don’t have a job and you don’t have or spend any money”. AS SOON AS I say “okay then I’ll get a job and we can have opposite shifts so we can take turns watching the baby” it’s always “NO yOu’Re tHe StAy aT hOMe mOm🙄😦”. LOLLL screw you dude fr. Like im bout ready to be a SINGLE MOM and not a SAHM.

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…. It shouldn’t be this way, isn’t suppose to be 😔 he’s got a warped sense of gender roles and is financially abusing you too sounds like.
I’m sorry. 😣💕

Yeah, this is abuse… you need to start preparing yourself to run. Open your own bank account without his knowledge and slowly start putting money in there. Maybe try and see if you can get like a remote job or something that will work for you without him knowing. His priorities are so crooked , it’s wild. He’s a selfish POS and girl is this really the way you wanna spend the rest of your life? He’s actively trying to tie you down financially. I hope you’re able to find a solution 🫶🏽 and be careful

Truth is it shouldn’t be this way, there will always be more of the burden in mums who are the usual primary caregiver for the child and dads get the luxury of many things that mums don’t, but in a healthy household, dads are not second citizens, they’re active as they can be.
My husband works full time and does side job and I will be going back to work and I will make the necessary sacrifices work wise because my husband does his most for us.
This is abusive and we must call things what they are or there will be no change in individual houses or society.
I understand that it’s complicated and hard when you build a life with someone, you can’t just leave but when kids are involved you must think what do I want my kids to be around? We often think we can shield children from things but they see everything, the only way to shield them is to make a firm stand in any decision we make.
Do what’s best for you and your child.

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Is it bad of me to think this or no?

My husband has been abroad for work (1 day and exploring for 1 day) for 2 and a half days which means I’ve had both kids (1 year and 4 year old) for 2 and a half days plus cooking, cleaning, taking them to clubs, bedtimes!
He came home late afternoon and said I’m so tired, I just need to chill. I said can you wash up whilst I sort kids dinner out, he said he’ll do it later which means he won’t do it and I’ll end up doing it so I said no do it now please otherwise I’ll end up doing it and he said well you have been home and I’ve been away so you’ve just been relaxing.
Don’t know what planet he is on but having the kids alone for 2.5 days is not relaxing. I was stressed!

When he was away, I did miss him and wanted him to come back but now he’s back, I want him to go away again😂
Is that bad?

Post partum dad

I have a 2 month old. A few weeks ago my husband crashed out because he didn't feel like he was getting to bond with her. I started exclusively breastfeeding around that time and honestly didnt see the big deal. Baby and I left for a few days and when we got back home, everything was fine. He was extremely hands-on. He helped with my meals, her bedtime, bath, stories.....for a few weeks it was great. Then he randomly sounds depressed af. He says our lo is better off without him, he wants to sleep all day , he asks me not to watch tv then tried playing a video game. He refused to reply to me when i asked any follow-up questions. Then he woke up our baby trying to race me to the bathroom first thing in the morning . He's doing a weird mix of crying, trying, and giving up. Im starting to feel like I cant handle him not being able to handle life with baby and just want to be alone. Are there resources for men?

Really bothered by this

A friend posted this and it really bothers me because that is exactly how she parents her kid, and it's rather unfortunate because when our kids hang out together, her kid has a meltdown at least 5x within an hour. We have know them for years and it's only gotten worse. My kids will concede to hers, because they don't want to see their friend crying, but it sucks because they give up so much of their toys and enjoyment to keep the peace. We aren't hanging out as much anymore but it's rather sad to think she doesn't intervene more in her child tantrums and just let's it slide

My 2 year old won’t eat nothing but snacks

Is this normal ? He won’t even try anything I eat .. he really only like pizza fries and spaghetti… nuggets and snacks bananas some other fruit but like anything else he won’t eat if try but I don’t want to force him I’m just I feel like bad I mean he isn’t losing weight I breastfeed mostly still

Feeding

My son is coming up to five months and I just started giving him oatmeal and rice cereal. When can you start trying veggies or fruits? I only give him the oatmeal or rice cereal once a day right now which is what the paediatrician had said to do. I’m just curious to when anybody tried anything else with their kids cause my son eats a lot of formula and he’s VERY curious when I eat.

Is this normal

Let’s say you’re at a softplay with your 2 year old, and some friends & their toddlers.
You buy your 2 year old a kids meal - chicken nuggets, beans, and chips. They’re very happy with it and have almost eaten it all.
They’re sat at the table, fork in hand, consistently eating, and have one chicken nugget left.
Your adult friend comes over from behind you, picks up the last chicken nugget, and eats it.
There was no indication that your child wasn’t going to eat it, and they didn’t ask. They just took it with no warning and ate it right in front of you and your toddler.
How you reacting?