AIO?

Underreacting. I’d be absolutely livid

End of the day this is your baby
Don’t react or pull him up
Just refuse to do any meal times at the MIL from now on just be calm and say no we won’t be going at lunch / dinner time we can go between meals and come home for dinner.
Without raking over the incident to create an argument your actions will speak louder than words
It may be a logistical nightmare for a couple visits but when one of them asks why you can calmly say you felt very attacked and upset after the last meal together so would rather avoid that happening again.

Mother-in-laws gonna mother-in-law - there’s literally nothing you can do about that and frankly it isn’t your job to deal with her. Your husband should have shut that shit down right away.

But as for husband undermining you in front of his family and then encouraging a pile-on? That shit is not on. I would have the HUGEST fight with my husband if he did something like that (which he wouldn’t do, because he knows we are a team and it’s his job to defend his family, not suck up to his mammy).

You can’t control your MIL’s behaviour, only your reaction to it. Next time she tries to offer “advice”, smile sweetly and say: “Thank you for your concern, but I have it under control.” If she doesn’t take the hint, say: “I know your advice is coming from a place of love, but I don’t need any help right now. I’ll ask you when I do.”

And as for your husband, tell him to sleep on the fucking couch tonight.

You have a husband problem. He is a wet wipe. The fact that he openly allows his family to disrespect you will never end well. This is the kind of thing that ends marriages as he does not have your back. You’re basically sleeping with the enemy.

I think you’re going to have to have some hard conversations with your husband about his disrespect. Unless he’s willing to go to marriage counselling with you, I don’t see your marriage lasting tbh.

Massive under reaction. Like I say to my family , my baby my rules . I actually said if they’ve got Any issue they can come to next health visitor appointment. Raise their concerns then and see what they have to say. Safe to say not one person has questioned how I raise my girl. And your husband? I seriously wanna know who in the world he thinks he’s taking to?
From now on, sayy you’re not going to MIL during meal times. If he doesn’t like how your feeding bubs , he can go eat at hers so he doesn’t havve to see, but side note, are you ok? Like that must have beenn awful x

That's not right, the way they acting isn't acceptable!!!!

Don’t you ever feel embarrassed for raising your child! You’re doing great ! ❤️

You are feeding a 14 month old food....what the actual hell are they moaning about? She should be eating proper food now. Do they think she should still be eating puree?
Do what I do, he wants to go to his mother's? Fine, take the kids off you go, I'm gunna sit at home and have some peace!

I’d be more mad at my husband than anybody else. I mean the older folks always think they know best. But for him to say she does it all the time, like he’s holding feelings about it is wild. He should be like yes she does it all the time so she knows what she’s doing, back off. The end.

Sounds like your husband needs to spend more alone time with your child as he’s clearly unaware of what your child can and can’t do. Unless it’s a piece of steak or a grape that’s not been cut up and he does actually have a point.

I don’t know who said your over reacting but unless your putting your kids unintentional in danger or there really is a helpful method to do something differently, who the f are you to tell me anything about my child and your husband is an absolute Pratt for that

At 14months she is capable of your every day meals and if she has blw since 6months she is more than capable

Divorce instantly for me

Red flags of a narcissist and his narcissistic mother I would be running

Download a BLW app like SolidStarts, then when anyone questions you again you can tell them that they are won't and show them the app. 14 months old is old enough for proper meals and food. You still need to be careful about some foods obv, but bigger pieces are better!

My husband has never had an issue telling his mom when she's wrong thankfully. One time when we were about to announce our oldest name lol, his mom was so gunho on the name Isabella or Belle/Bella or Izzy. Just obsessed that she said it again to us "I really think you should name her that" my husband shut that down real quick telling her that I had her name picked out for a long time lol. Since I was 10 that I can remember. Needless our second born is 4 mo old & Bellamie bc it was his turn to name one of our kids. We are 2 & through 🤣❤️ but my MIL also wouldn't make comments or tell me how to parent bc we agree on a lot. It sounds petty and rude how his family treats you & he allowed it. Could you imagine if that happened to him?

Everyone was wrong in this situation except for you. I would be pissed at his momma, his brother, and especially him. I wouldn't go back there unless I got an apology from all three of them.

Your mother in law has no right to butt in business that aint hers, thats your baby end of. No one wants a micro manager.

and also your partner not defending you? He is a product of her parenting. Clearly she didn't raise him properly if he is embarrassing you in front of the family

They are definitely in the wrong. I understand that theyre worried about the big chunks of food but why are they treating you like you don't know how to mother YOUR baby.

I have had these conversations with my MIL, I found her still feeding my 2 year old mashed banana 🙄 although as everyone else has mentioned it seems to be a husband problem and he would be sent to sleep with his mammy if he figured that attitude and response was ok

If you need to talk anytime drop me a message x