Trying to start the process of being poly

My husband works out of town and I’m lonely! The goal is to find someone who would like to be in a relationship with us. Hopefully to curb my loneliness while he’s gone, but also to just add some amazing new connection in our life. Super open to it being an occasional thing, or full on relationship (idk the right terminology- throuple, triad? Poly? Idk haha) but we are new to this. We don’t have local friends where we live and have no idea how to even potentially find and or meet people who would be interested lol

Any tips on how to start this process?

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The proper term depends on the dynamic you’re looking for. And it sounds like you’re super NEW new at this but from what I can gather, you seem to be looking for a connection for yourself. That would be a poly V relationship with you being the hinge/connection, between your husband and new partner. A throuple/triad involves all parties intimately and even romantically in some dynamics.

We look for both but some “single” women aren’t always open to both genders or even find us both to be their type so PATIENCE is key with this lifestyle. DO NOT SETTLE. I understand wanting that feminine connection for my own reasons but a lot of people will expect you to settle for them simply bc they are female yet they don’t TRULY measure up to what you’re looking for bc this life isnt for everyone. I tell them “it may not be for everyone but there are billions of people in the world and I’m not a person that settles for something that doesn’t satisfy my life”.

Write a list of what you’re looking +

For and needing. Don’t look at it as your husband lacking in any particular area but as your unit being a glass and you and your husband being different amounts of water but there still being space for more.

Some people will not mix with you both like adding oil to water. But the right person will fill your glass the rest of the way. 🫶🏽

All the advice I have. Good luck to you.

Where are yall located?

in our community

Where’s my yappers at?!

I need someone to text back and fourth all day! Now I get, we get busy and things like that. I work and have three kids, so I totally get it. But I just want to yappppp about everything and anything! I feel like as soon as I give my number out, everybody disappears😔

Birth control, what’s your experience?

Hey girlies, I just wanted to come and vent because I know I’m crazy and I think my hormones are getting the best of me… I feel like I’ve been having soft baby fever. My ovulation is crazy before or after during it doesn’t matter. The father of my child has been asking me if I would consider birth control because it’s not like I’m trying to deliberately get pregnant, but I also wouldn’t be mad at the idea if that makes sense😅
Anyways, I feel completely scared of looking at all of the birth control. I used to be on the shot and then the one time I stopped taking it since I was 14 I almost made 12 months and then my baby daddy got me pregnant. And then for maybe almost a year they put a device in my arm that they eventually took out because they thought it was causing other medical symptoms and I wasn’t sexually active anyways they just wanted to do it just to do it if you know what I mean. But I’ve been looking over the Options down to the patch and I do currently suffer from chronic migraines, nausea and dizziness, and I’ve seen terrible reviews where people claim they’ve gotten blood clots and other variety of different symptoms. I feel like I wanted at least try it, but it seems so traumatizing and then on the other side I feel like every time I go to the clinic or the doctors office. Every other person I come into contact with tells me a story about how every other one of their kids they were on birth control.😭😭😭 I wouldn’t be mad if I ended up with A Child, but I don’t wanna have to go through having something like IUD or Nexplanon or vaginal ring, inserted and go through all of that to either end of pregnant anyways or something worse you know? Sometimes I hate being that 5% that always catches all the random symptoms and side effects.😩😩😩

I’m hoping somebody can ease my mind on their experience. The last thing I wanna do is the IUD or pills I hate having to swallow pills, but I’ve only ever done the shot and that was ages ago.

An old friend who was flaky is liking my social media and texted to tell me she published a book

I've already given up on the friendship because it was so one-sided, it was all about her it was all about being an audience to her and everything happening in her life.

Story of my Life where most female friends only become friends with me because it makes them look popular meanwhile if we hang out all I hear is about their traumas. There's never any real interest or even questions about our lives and if we happen to have gotten sick and couldn't agree to an outing it never seemed to be an acceptable response

I'm just so confused at female friendships and I just need to hear the truth once and for all. Am I just falling for poor friendships what are they even supposed to feel like because personally I honestly feel they should be reciprocal and there should be genuine interest back and forth

So this old friend saw my Instagram story posts and like them and then texted saying we're doing great and that she published a book and to check it out

And I'm just like okay. Again it's still all about her right?

I'm trying to understand if I'm seeing things clearly or not

PSA🚨

If you’re on here begging for a friend and then use one word replies and then ghost. . You’re WEIRD. . And this app isn’t for you. . IDK about you . But I’m on here to make REAL friends that are capable of holding a conversation!… and NOT talking about themselves the ENTIRE time. . Girl bye. 👋..

NYC

Okayyy, I’m putting myself out there 😂💕 I’m 27 and due in March 🤰🏽 and I’d love to make some new friends! Just looking for genuine girls I can talk to, laugh with, grab food, go out every now and then, or even just chill and vibe. 🫶🏽 If you’re looking for new friends too, feel free to comment or message me! 💕

Sorry buttt.... BDAYS AND CHRISTMAS

What are we buying??????