Thoughts on dirty/ filthy homes due to depression?

It can definitely be depression, trauma related, based on how they grew up, or so many other factors. I think it’s interesting when you can make a profile to essentially highlight all the awesome stuff about you that people will post photos of their messes.

As a mom that lived like this it took my friend helping me clean and explaining to me that even though it’s depression it’s still a form of child abuse. I wasnt nasty but I would wait at least a day before picking up certain trash. 😭😭 Now my house isn’t spotless at all but I have learned to pick up trash and keep things wiped down for the sake of my babies.. it is sad and a sucky reality for most children.
But on the other hand I’m glad my friend didn’t judge me and walk away, I’m thankful for her help and teaching.

I’ve lived in conditions like this growing up I think a lot of those of us who have are clean freaks as a trauma response I can’t relax if my home isn’t in order

If my house is gross and dirty, it will cause me to enter into a depression until I get it clean. Back in my deepest depths of depression in 2018, I definitely let my house go. Not to that extent, but still

I totally understand mental health and letting your home slip for a few days I’ve been there myself.. however when you have children you have to make that conscious effort every day to provide a clean home. My daughter is almost 6 and she always says to me ‘mummy you are always cleaning’ & I always say to her that I’m house proud and want her to live in a clean and tidy home.

Mental health isn’t an excuse when you have children.. you have to get up and do it for them. I never used to be such a clean freak until I had my little girl & now I always make sure I clean every single day to make sure the house is clean for my little girl. I have dogs too so it makes me want to clean even more!

My house isn't like that but it is more cluttered then I'd like it to be, I also feel bad for my child but no matter how much I do I still feel like I'm drowning. It's hard doing it with a partner who doesn't care so he doesn't help, just contributes to turning our house into the same mess as someone with depression

That’s sad & strange she would post photos like that, makes me think she doesn’t realize there’s anything wrong.

I agree with above comments. I think it can be a combination of things; depression, trauma, not enough time, didn’t learn how to keep a tidy home (or grew up in a messy house & think/learned that’s normal). But even if someone doesn’t have help, it’s a basic adult responsibility to be hygienic. There’s no excuse for food & garbage mess when you have kids. It’s unsanitary & is a basic need - to make sure your kids stay clean. I tell my kids we all need to keep our bodies & our house clean so we all stay healthy & don’t get sick.

I’ve had depressed or sick days & many days when I felt so overwhelmed & don’t feel physically or mentally able to do anything. But I still make sure I take garbage out & my kids bathe & brush their teeth. I absolutely hate food mess; like going to bed & leaving food on the couch or kitchen counter, or dirty diapers next to the bed - I could never

I get stressed when my house is cluttered with toys & kids’ art & clean laundry waiting to be put away.

I had to do mostly home visits for my previous job & when I volunteered with a cat rescue…I was so surprised by how so many people live! :( Most homes were so unbelievably messy, cluttered, smelled bad, lots looked like hoarder houses. I remember cringing when someone told me to sit & there was visible garbage, animal poop & layers of dust all over the chairs. It was mostly low income, but imagine my surprise when the mom of one messy hoarder home was a nurse?!