Anyone else’s parents just refuse to learn technology? & ask you to do everything for them?
I’m not sure if it’s cause I’m an only child and a mum, but I feel overwhelmed by how much both my parents depend on me lately,
I’m 28 with a 3 year old & my parents are separated in there mid 50s,
I’m grateful for my parents & I’m happy to help when I can but some asks they could definitely do without me,
Some examples
•mum has work training assessments monthly she can do on her phone but she doesn’t even attempt or ask anymore she just passes me the phone when I see her for catch up/lunch cause she says I’m quicker,
•dad has to renew a license every year for work & it’s me that has to do the forms online to send off & email his boss,
•General information searches they know how to work Google,
•getting numbers for places
•one parent is chasing up a car payment claim that’s been 6month of emailing etc,
•another got a parking fine which I had to appeal and get supporting evidence etc there’s always something🫣
•My dads is currently travelling abroad but has me rushing to pick up his garage key on my day off this week so he can rent it out again, he’s annoyed I coil my go last week but my car broke on Boxing Day so have only just got it fixed🙃!
Currently I’m being made redundant in Feb due to company cuts, so need to find another work from home job with similar hours to fit around my childcare & my physical limitations(disability),
My partner seem to have a midlife crisis at 30, took a less paying job with no bonuses last year which I supported cause the previously job staff weren’t very nice but I’m gutted cause he’s gone from chasing money to being awful with it, he’s spend over £300 on car mods in last few weeks🫣 knowing I’m loosing my job so I’m stressed with money/losing job, had to stop saving for a mortgage, just fixed my car and it’s due it’s mot in a week, job hunting daily etc and parents know of these issues but can be impatient or pissed if I’m not quick enough to solve there problems🫣
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I know it maybe be frustrating but I came to say just be glad you still have parents. Mine have been gone for many years now and believe me, life will never be the same once they are gone. Count your blessings. The day will come when you wished you could help them just one more time.
It’s not just their age. It is your lack of boundaries. Maybe look up boundaries with parents as adult child on youtube. Is your dad from abroad as well?? There are videos as well on adult children handling culture expectations and setting boundaries as well if so.
Be gentle with your parents! However, I do understand your frustration! Technology has changed so much that what seems simple to you, isn't so simple to them. I often ask younger colleagues for technological help because it didn't exist- no smart phones, remote controls, apps, internet, etc. It can be hard to keep up.
My mum’s like this. But she’s done so much for me that I will happily help her.
That’s my MiL and she lives in house. She just asked hubby last night how to use her phone camera and there was lots of screaming lol. She may remember now but she’ll ask again the same question next week. She doesn’t know how to use the GPS either so she’ll never go anywhere she’s not gone before, she doesn’t drive on big freeways either. She’s 75 though, but still, her friend is same age is tech-savvy. SHE’S the one that drives them anywhere new, (the friend)… MIL gets a lift from her often.
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