Husband’s spoiled little cousin

Hi guys! So my husband has a little cousin who is 7 1/2 years old. No matter whose birthday it is, she will literally throw a whiny fit if she doesn’t blow out their candles. Her parents will literally throw birthday parties for family members and whoever’s birthday it is will blow out their candles, then because the little cousin throws a fit they’ll relight the candles for her to blow out. I’ve seen this happen for a few years now, but I had my daughter recently. My daughter’s birthday is June 23, and my husband’s little cousin’s birthday is June 29… only 6 days apart. I refuse to let her blow out my daughter’s candles (it would be my daughter’s first birthday). Some may say it isn’t a big deal but for me it feels big. Hitting one years old is a huge celebration and milestone. I don’t even feel comfortable bringing it up beforehand because they’re the type to get offended. What should I do? I’m open to opinions and suggestions.

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Im not relighting anything to make somebody else feel better on a day thats not about them 🤷🏽‍♀️ the parents need to fix that bc its only gonna get worse. And if they feel any type of way about it then they can stay home and wait for her birthday. Theyre raising the type if kid thats gonna think they can do and say whatever they want and its only going to worse and much harder for them.

I’m just wondering no hate but who will blow out the candles for your daughter, I assume she won’t be able to?
But, the parents should control that behaviour, she’s old enough to understand.

I hate people who let their kids do that! Stand your ground! She’s going to grow up to be an entitled brat if people keep letting her get away with anything. Do not let her blow out the candles do not relight them. It’s not about her it’s about your baby. And your husband better back you up on that cuz if not that’s another issue.

She’s old enough to learn and should have learned from the start. And everyone in the family that let’s this continue can kick rocks and blow bubbles.

Nah that little girls gotta learn. Not her birthday, not her candles.

Will your 1 year old be able to blow the candles out herself? If not I would say don’t even have candles that way she can’t really throw a fit

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Is this normal?

Is it just my husband that does this? He is able to work from home via his computer and in the mornings and evenings he is on there doing his job. When he is done for the day he tends to stay in the room and either play video games or watch something. He will occasionally come out and play with the girls for a few minutes and that’s it but when I really need him he says he is busy. My daughters are both 1 year old now and I am just wondering how much involvement should he have with them now?
Idk if this is the norm or not…..

Saying NO to buying toys etc

5 year old is getting really envious of others. He is obsessed with items that other kids have at school. I am pestered daily to buy these things in a different style when we already have 3 others. I have seen parents just buying stuff their kid likes which I don't necessarily agree with even when i can afford it. How do you deal with it?

Thoughts?

your soon to be brother in law (upon inquiry) told you that only a few kids from the family were attending his wedding because they are over the age cut off..

Tablet for kids

Alright don’t need any negative Nancy’s telling me not to get my 2yo a tablet so if that’s what your gunna do please don’t participate in my poll.

We’re about to move cross country 3+ day trip and my 2yo and 9m hate the car I’m talking scream their heads off till they are out of their seats. We’ve already changed car seats and it didn’t help so I’d like to at least have one entertained and sit next to baby and try and distract her or put her to sleep. Our new car has tvs but since they are rear faced my 2yo can’t see it.

Debating getting her a tablet or dvd player right now on long car rides I end up giving her my phone because I get so overwhelmed sitting in between both of them screaming and crying.

And yes I do bring different toys I bring snacks I play songs try to distract her other ways but for the sake of not losing my mind on this move I think this is best.

-A very overwhelmed and anxious to move mama 😓

Daycare?

Thoughts on daycare?? Truly, I am SCARED to be leaving my kid for daycare. I literally do not trust anyone, not even family (they haven’t given me a reason it’s just trust issues on my end, you never know). He’s turning 3 and I’ve been a sahm the whole time but tbh my man doesn’t make enough for us to move out somewhere more calm . We live in a ‘not so safe’ area in LA and I’m just not used to living here so I just want us to give my son a better life and in order to speed up the process I would have to work.. I do lashes at home and I’d be open to take new clients so I wouldn’t have to look for work but I’m just scared to lose my license 😭

Separation Anxiety

My baby is nearly 6 months old and has just entered the separation anxiety stage… this evening I was trying to cook dinner whilst my husband was with the baby and he was just crying every time he couldn’t see me, with full blown hysterical sobbing, and as soon as he saw me again he started giggling and smiling. Any tips on how to stop this? And how long might this phase last?
My husband felt pretty disheartened and upset 😢