Omgg poop smear

Why doesnt anyone talk about this side of motherhood!! My 2.5 yr old all of sudden takes her poop diaper off and would smear it on the walls ( im just in shockeddd like wtf) this is literally the 3rd time shes done it within the 4 months and the crazy is part is that my husband was like you know what babe she hasn’t taken her dirty off in a while and played with the poop and then BOOM 😂

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RANT - Health Visitor complaint

I’ve just had the health visitor over for my 7 week old sons 6/8 week check and was wondering if this is ok or should I report this to save the next person who might not be as strong?

Baby boy was crying when she arrived and told me he sounds like he’s in pain, but had no suggestions on what to do and asked me if I still love him when he cries like that. She then asked me to list ‘3 reasons why i love my son’ and just sat staring at me until i answered - I was so on edge I couldn’t answer and she just raised her eyebrows at me and moved on. Asking me all extreme depression / mental health questions and going on and on and then watched over me why I filled in a depression chart.
Then told me I’m making bad habits by holding him when he sleeps, she’s the only midwife i’ve ever come across who has that option of a 7 week old baby? And then said if I continue to go to him when he cries he’ll learn that he can cry to get what he wants so told me to leave him to cry it out which goes against ALL advice online for this age?!

We are at our most vulnerable that we will probably ever be in our entire life postpartum. We will never forget the way people treat us. Postnatal depression is REAL. Imagine the next woman she says this too doesn’t cope with having those things said to her?

Cosatto next to me crib

I have the cosatto next to me crib. It states that the mattress is 78cm x 44cm but I'm struggling to find sheets to fit it.
Has anyone else got this and can recommend any sheets please? Thankyou 😊

4 month old distress

Hi please can I get some advice? in the last few days my four month old has suddenly become very very fussy specifically I’m noticing she’s doing this New thing where she will clench her fists and stretch her arms up above her head she will arch her back and it almost looks like she’s straining or something because her face will go a bit red and she’ll sort of make a grunting/crying noise. It seems like she’s in some sort of discomfort but I’ve got no idea what it is. I’ve tried doing bicycle legs and tummy massage and nothing‘s changed with her formula. Shes feeding as normal. She’s pooing as normal. If anything she probably had an extra one or two today, I haven’t noticed her passing much gas so I don’t know if that’s what it could be.
I’m just worried because I literally can’t put her down at the moment. Every time I lay her down she does it, she has been doing it on and off all day , I try put her in the bouncer which she normally loves and she immediately will throw her arms up, arch her back and effectively try to throw herself out of it. What could it be ?

Alcohol and breastfeeding — feeling really guilty

Has anyone else ever ended up breastfeeding sooner than they intended after having a couple of drinks?

I normally try to keep track of what I’ve had and use an app to estimate when the alcohol has cleared, but tonight my baby completely refused the bottle and was absolutely demanding the breast. My estimated level was 0.23‰ (0.023%) when I fed her and I was only a few minutes away from the app saying I was good to go.

Rationally I know that’s a really small amount, but I feel awful because I’m now thinking back to other occasions where I’ve had drinks and breastfed and wondering whether I’ve accidentally exposed her more than I realised.

I’m not a regular/heavy drinker, it’s more dinners, holidays, occasions etc, but the mum guilt is getting to me. Has anyone else worried about this? How do you manage drinking and breastfeeding, especially if your baby refuses bottles? Please be kind ❤️

Sleep

Hello everyone,how do your babies sleep?my girl is 3 months now and she has good naps during the day but only seems to sleep 2 hours at night,any tips?

Breastfeeding

Really struggling with breastfeeding my 4 day old so looking for advice.

She will latch onto the breast but I don’t think she’s getting much. She’s never ever satisfied and will fall to sleep pretty instantly when on me. She has also made my nipples incredibly sore so feeding is really painful.

She’s doesn’t even seem like she’s swallowing anything. There’s definitely milk there now and it will fine out even when I touch my breasts.

I’ve been doing lots of skin to skin, stripping her down and changing her nappy to keep her awake ect. I’ve tried nipple shields which make it more uncomfortable and use nipple cream constantly which gives a little bit of relief.

I’ve been doing a mixture of formula because of how sore I am whilst waiting for my breast pump to come.

Feel like I’m failing and so close to just giving up with it as she’s just never properly settled after the breast.

Please please any advice or tips or anything would be really appreciated x