RANT - Health Visitor complaint
I’ve just had the health visitor over for my 7 week old sons 6/8 week check and was wondering if this is ok or should I report this to save the next person who might not be as strong?
Baby boy was crying when she arrived and told me he sounds like he’s in pain, but had no suggestions on what to do and asked me if I still love him when he cries like that. She then asked me to list ‘3 reasons why i love my son’ and just sat staring at me until i answered - I was so on edge I couldn’t answer and she just raised her eyebrows at me and moved on. Asking me all extreme depression / mental health questions and going on and on and then watched over me why I filled in a depression chart.
Then told me I’m making bad habits by holding him when he sleeps, she’s the only midwife i’ve ever come across who has that option of a 7 week old baby? And then said if I continue to go to him when he cries he’ll learn that he can cry to get what he wants so told me to leave him to cry it out which goes against ALL advice online for this age?!
We are at our most vulnerable that we will probably ever be in our entire life postpartum. We will never forget the way people treat us. Postnatal depression is REAL. Imagine the next woman she says this too doesn’t cope with having those things said to her?
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Id report that! She sounds like she needs a bit of modern training to me
Please please please report this!
Please report her omg
100% report but also don’t confuse midwife with health visitor as they have different roles (just saw you put HV in the title and then mention midwife in the text)
Oh my goodness. This post convinces me that I will NEVER have a health visitor over in my home ever again. Hated every single health visitor appointment I had.
Immediately report, file an official complaint, call the GP, whatever else you can do!!!
Complain immediately
I would 100% report this health visitor as what she’s saying goes completely against the current official nhs health visitor advice for new babies- I got a pamphlet today and it literally said you should always pick up and respond to your baby and that it’s a myth that babies will learn to cry to get what they want etc
Definitely report that… and don’t listen to that advice!! Do what feels good for you and baby and try to stay as sane as you can as you get through the next few weeks of being new mama.
Definitely 100% report that. That could send someone over the edge if they had PPD/PPA!
This is awful! Report and ask for a different health visitor!
Please please please report! I had extreme PPA with my first born and it I was treated this way it would of been detrimental to my mental health.
Thank god I had an amazing health visitor who listened to me and helped me and gave me space to talk about how I was feeling so I could get the relevant help.
She clearly is in need of investigating to see if she is up to date in current training. This is not acceptable.
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I’ve just had the health visitor over for my 7 week old sons 6/8 week check and was wondering if this is ok or should I report this to save the next person who might not be as strong?
Baby boy was crying when she arrived and told me he sounds like he’s in pain, but had no suggestions on what to do and asked me if I still love him when he cries like that. She then asked me to list ‘3 reasons why i love my son’ and just sat staring at me until i answered - I was so on edge I couldn’t answer and she just raised her eyebrows at me and moved on. Asking me all extreme depression / mental health questions and going on and on and then watched over me why I filled in a depression chart.
Then told me I’m making bad habits by holding him when he sleeps, she’s the only midwife i’ve ever come across who has that option of a 7 week old baby? And then said if I continue to go to him when he cries he’ll learn that he can cry to get what he wants so told me to leave him to cry it out which goes against ALL advice online for this age?!
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