SAHM separating partner

So my partner & I have been having issues. I live 7 hours away and I want full custody. Ever since I had my son he’s been my full responsibility. I’m the one who sets up the appointments, feeds him, changes him, plays with him. I’ve been the parent since day one. My son is two now. Since I went back to school, my son would stay 2 days with his dad during the day & I would find him unfed, same clothes as day before, house a mess. I don’t expect my partner to do everything like me but do something! When I was breastfeeding & would pump bc I was tired, My partner would deny feeding the bottle, so I would have to feed my son the bottle after pumping! I’m my sons caregiver. Without me, my partner wouldn’t be able to work, yet I still have to pay my own bills. It’s so unfair how im up from 6-12 most days either with my son or school unpaid. & my partner works 40 hours paid work while I care for our son & is a lousy parent when he’s home. I deserve full custody. How do I go about it?

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Your thinking that finances, effort, and time are unfair doesn't override his rights to see his child unless it's at a point that actually is considered neglect or abuse. He should be paying his share of child support which is based on his income and the percentage of time distribution. I have been in your shoes and I unfortunately totally understand where you're coming from but this is the bed that was made and unfortunately it sounds like you have 16 more years of co-parenting.

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She did say that her son arrives unfed and same clothes… that does sound like neglect.

I’m really sorry you’re dealing with this. If you’re thinking about custody, I’d start documenting everything (dates when he comes back unfed, unchanged, etc) and any text messages. And you would need a consult with a family law attorney. You’re not wrong for wanting stability for your son.

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