Bully’s at 3 years old 😩

I have a almost 4 year old and I have experienced him get bullied by a kid. The boy tells the other boys run away from him. My son thinks they are playing and doesnt understand that they were not playing but avoiding him. My husband also mentioned that at school the boy was with a friend and they were walking by and that the boy gave him a mean stare and even nudged the friend and said something to him while staring at my son. The boy has no interest in playing with my son. I don’t know why🤷🏻‍♀️
The boys parents are sweet. He has a older sister maybe 2 or 3 years apart. I know my son didn’t do anything to him because they met at a moms group before going to school together. My son is a very happy social boy. He loves making friends.
It’s crazy to me that there are already bullies at 3 years of age.
What would you moms do in this situation?

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Omg! I’m so sorry this is happening to your baby boy 😭 my 3 year old was also getting bothered by a girl when she first started school and it hurt me every time she would tell me this girl would hit her. So based on that experience I would say to ask the teacher and see if she has observed this behavior, if so is it happening as often as you believe or is it just certain times of the day when that boy is having a hard time. And the only thing I did / you could do, is talk to your son and show him how to set boundaries. Do pretend scenarios on what to say or how to behave when certain things happen.
I know we love our babies and the idea of the experiencing rejection hurts - but unfortunately they’re going to experience it at some point. So the best thing we can do is teach them how to handle rejection so they don’t take it so personally and see it as that person just doesn’t want to play in that moment and that’s okay. I hope your son finds real and kinder friends soon ❤️

I’m really sorry this is happening. Really sorry. I would ask the teacher what the dynamic is between your son and the other kid at school to get her perspective. After she gives her perspective, inform her of the bullying that your son is receiving from the other kid. I also wouldn’t be weary of talking to the bully’s parents. It’s possible they could help with nipping it in the bud!

Thank you mamas for your advice.

Its crazy we had to change my sons daycare for similar reasons my son was even hurt by the kids and it took years to find out the truth as my son is non verbal and daycare told me he had friends till a young girl told me what it was really like for my son have you spoken to the parents to see what they might know

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Is it bad of me to think this or no?

My husband has been abroad for work (1 day and exploring for 1 day) for 2 and a half days which means I’ve had both kids (1 year and 4 year old) for 2 and a half days plus cooking, cleaning, taking them to clubs, bedtimes!
He came home late afternoon and said I’m so tired, I just need to chill. I said can you wash up whilst I sort kids dinner out, he said he’ll do it later which means he won’t do it and I’ll end up doing it so I said no do it now please otherwise I’ll end up doing it and he said well you have been home and I’ve been away so you’ve just been relaxing.
Don’t know what planet he is on but having the kids alone for 2.5 days is not relaxing. I was stressed!

When he was away, I did miss him and wanted him to come back but now he’s back, I want him to go away again😂
Is that bad?

Post partum dad

I have a 2 month old. A few weeks ago my husband crashed out because he didn't feel like he was getting to bond with her. I started exclusively breastfeeding around that time and honestly didnt see the big deal. Baby and I left for a few days and when we got back home, everything was fine. He was extremely hands-on. He helped with my meals, her bedtime, bath, stories.....for a few weeks it was great. Then he randomly sounds depressed af. He says our lo is better off without him, he wants to sleep all day , he asks me not to watch tv then tried playing a video game. He refused to reply to me when i asked any follow-up questions. Then he woke up our baby trying to race me to the bathroom first thing in the morning . He's doing a weird mix of crying, trying, and giving up. Im starting to feel like I cant handle him not being able to handle life with baby and just want to be alone. Are there resources for men?

Feeding

My son is coming up to five months and I just started giving him oatmeal and rice cereal. When can you start trying veggies or fruits? I only give him the oatmeal or rice cereal once a day right now which is what the paediatrician had said to do. I’m just curious to when anybody tried anything else with their kids cause my son eats a lot of formula and he’s VERY curious when I eat.

Really bothered by this

A friend posted this and it really bothers me because that is exactly how she parents her kid, and it's rather unfortunate because when our kids hang out together, her kid has a meltdown at least 5x within an hour. We have know them for years and it's only gotten worse. My kids will concede to hers, because they don't want to see their friend crying, but it sucks because they give up so much of their toys and enjoyment to keep the peace. We aren't hanging out as much anymore but it's rather sad to think she doesn't intervene more in her child tantrums and just let's it slide

My 2 year old won’t eat nothing but snacks

Is this normal ? He won’t even try anything I eat .. he really only like pizza fries and spaghetti… nuggets and snacks bananas some other fruit but like anything else he won’t eat if try but I don’t want to force him I’m just I feel like bad I mean he isn’t losing weight I breastfeed mostly still

Is this normal

Let’s say you’re at a softplay with your 2 year old, and some friends & their toddlers.
You buy your 2 year old a kids meal - chicken nuggets, beans, and chips. They’re very happy with it and have almost eaten it all.
They’re sat at the table, fork in hand, consistently eating, and have one chicken nugget left.
Your adult friend comes over from behind you, picks up the last chicken nugget, and eats it.
There was no indication that your child wasn’t going to eat it, and they didn’t ask. They just took it with no warning and ate it right in front of you and your toddler.
How you reacting?