4 year old obsessed with his penis

Advice needed!

My 4 year old is constantly touching his penis. At home I managed to stop him by saying we only touch in bedroom or bathroom. I still have to remind him, but seems to be getting through. At bedtime he won't keep anything on his bottom half because he wants to hold and play with his penis, often I'm telling him to let it rest because it's keeping him awake playing with it.

School told me his hand is constantly down his trousers and he even got it out the other day and refused to put it back in his pants.

I've taken him to the GP (school insisted) and the GP said this is normal behaviour and there's no infection or anything else going on.

So my question is, is anyone else going through this with their son? Is this a phase or here to stay?

Solo parent, the BD is useless and only lives to blame me for everything so it's not like I have a man around to understand this obsession with their penis.

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My son is the same but he's 1...between nappy changes and whenever he can he tries to touch his little guy🤣 if the doctor says it's fine then trust that - he could just be curious? Try talk to him and find out what's going on in his head; is he itchy? Is it sore?

haven’t had my baby yet but i’ve worked at a daycare and there was a boy that always played with his anytime we changed him or took him to the bathroom it’s normal but i’m not sure how to redirect since your son does it no matter what😭 but it’s harmless and he will grow out of it

4 years old is definitely old enough that he’s understanding the “only in the bedroom or bathroom” comment. I haven’t had my little one yet but I used to work in nurseries and this was pretty common we found that some kids did it for attention so instead of reacting verbally when they got it out, we would simply take them to the sleep section or bathroom eventually they did begin to understand as if they were in the middle of an activity they enjoyed they obviously then wouldn’t want to leave what they were doing to go be in the sleep section or bathroom. Try when you’re at home just any time you notice or he tries to bring it to your attention that he’s touching his penis to direct him to the bathroom or bedroom without any verbal response from you, from what I experienced at the nurseries it seemed to be like a behaviour that needed to be weaned off of, not made to be right/wrong 🤍

As an Educator I see this all the time in boys and girls. It's completely normal and normally just a phase. My son will be 4 on the 18th and a few months ago would play with his in the bath. Dad and I explained he needed to be gentle cause he can hurt himself. He still grabs it every now and then in the bath.

I got told if you keep making a big deal out of it, he's going to keep doing it. If you ignore it they stop. You've given him a reaction and keep reacting, so therefore he's loving the attention!
It worked with mine, he wasn't as out there with it as yours , but he was constantly touching. He very rarely does it now.

Thanks all for your advice. I don't want him thinking he's being naughty, but if im being totally honest, it's really annoying to see. So I'll try the less attention approach, but remove him to the bathroom and see if that knocks this on the head.

Sorry for the extra graphic detail, but he's pulling at the tip, and I keep expecting him to cause it to become sore or bleed.

My 4 years old son did the same for a week and I told him that his penis will fall because of the germs.

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Is it bad of me to think this or no?

My husband has been abroad for work (1 day and exploring for 1 day) for 2 and a half days which means I’ve had both kids (1 year and 4 year old) for 2 and a half days plus cooking, cleaning, taking them to clubs, bedtimes!
He came home late afternoon and said I’m so tired, I just need to chill. I said can you wash up whilst I sort kids dinner out, he said he’ll do it later which means he won’t do it and I’ll end up doing it so I said no do it now please otherwise I’ll end up doing it and he said well you have been home and I’ve been away so you’ve just been relaxing.
Don’t know what planet he is on but having the kids alone for 2.5 days is not relaxing. I was stressed!

When he was away, I did miss him and wanted him to come back but now he’s back, I want him to go away again😂
Is that bad?

Post partum dad

I have a 2 month old. A few weeks ago my husband crashed out because he didn't feel like he was getting to bond with her. I started exclusively breastfeeding around that time and honestly didnt see the big deal. Baby and I left for a few days and when we got back home, everything was fine. He was extremely hands-on. He helped with my meals, her bedtime, bath, stories.....for a few weeks it was great. Then he randomly sounds depressed af. He says our lo is better off without him, he wants to sleep all day , he asks me not to watch tv then tried playing a video game. He refused to reply to me when i asked any follow-up questions. Then he woke up our baby trying to race me to the bathroom first thing in the morning . He's doing a weird mix of crying, trying, and giving up. Im starting to feel like I cant handle him not being able to handle life with baby and just want to be alone. Are there resources for men?

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My son is coming up to five months and I just started giving him oatmeal and rice cereal. When can you start trying veggies or fruits? I only give him the oatmeal or rice cereal once a day right now which is what the paediatrician had said to do. I’m just curious to when anybody tried anything else with their kids cause my son eats a lot of formula and he’s VERY curious when I eat.

Really bothered by this

A friend posted this and it really bothers me because that is exactly how she parents her kid, and it's rather unfortunate because when our kids hang out together, her kid has a meltdown at least 5x within an hour. We have know them for years and it's only gotten worse. My kids will concede to hers, because they don't want to see their friend crying, but it sucks because they give up so much of their toys and enjoyment to keep the peace. We aren't hanging out as much anymore but it's rather sad to think she doesn't intervene more in her child tantrums and just let's it slide

My 2 year old won’t eat nothing but snacks

Is this normal ? He won’t even try anything I eat .. he really only like pizza fries and spaghetti… nuggets and snacks bananas some other fruit but like anything else he won’t eat if try but I don’t want to force him I’m just I feel like bad I mean he isn’t losing weight I breastfeed mostly still

Is this normal

Let’s say you’re at a softplay with your 2 year old, and some friends & their toddlers.
You buy your 2 year old a kids meal - chicken nuggets, beans, and chips. They’re very happy with it and have almost eaten it all.
They’re sat at the table, fork in hand, consistently eating, and have one chicken nugget left.
Your adult friend comes over from behind you, picks up the last chicken nugget, and eats it.
There was no indication that your child wasn’t going to eat it, and they didn’t ask. They just took it with no warning and ate it right in front of you and your toddler.
How you reacting?