Jealousy

My son is 4 and has been really loving and attached to me. Lately he’s been dealing with some anger and I’m battling with him everyday trying to teach and show him how to regulate his emotions. Obviously he’s 4 so it will take a while. But dad is not allowed to kiss or hug me in front of him without my son getting extremely angry. If I even lay my head on dad he gets very upset with us both & says we don’t love him. When dad leaves he’s fine and happy. But then when dad gets home he acts out.

Has anyone dealt with the same issue. With your partner and son?

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You son is in charge of your household and you’re walking on eggshells around him this is extremely dysfunctional and bad in the long run for his development. He’s essentially learned “my feelings control adult behavior”

Read the book hunt gather parent.

If he flips when you hug dad, let him flip out and just calmly say “mommy and daddy get to hug too, we will give you attention when you calm down”
Your child doesn’t get to control your family dynamics that’s for you to set.

Oh absolutely! He doesn’t run the show cause we still show affection in front of him. We don’t want to not show affection and have him think that’s how it’s suppose to be. We’re trying to teach & get him to understand that we all love each other.
We usually redirect his behavior when our hugs trigger him.

But I’ll definitely look into that book!
I was wondering if anyone has also dealt with this before or currently.

I would write him a social story. Its written out simply and from his perspective so helps children relate to situations they dont quite understand. Jealousy is normal but he can be redirected to join in a family cuddle rather than getting angry

Of course, hope it helps xx

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Is it bad of me to think this or no?

My husband has been abroad for work (1 day and exploring for 1 day) for 2 and a half days which means I’ve had both kids (1 year and 4 year old) for 2 and a half days plus cooking, cleaning, taking them to clubs, bedtimes!
He came home late afternoon and said I’m so tired, I just need to chill. I said can you wash up whilst I sort kids dinner out, he said he’ll do it later which means he won’t do it and I’ll end up doing it so I said no do it now please otherwise I’ll end up doing it and he said well you have been home and I’ve been away so you’ve just been relaxing.
Don’t know what planet he is on but having the kids alone for 2.5 days is not relaxing. I was stressed!

When he was away, I did miss him and wanted him to come back but now he’s back, I want him to go away again😂
Is that bad?

Post partum dad

I have a 2 month old. A few weeks ago my husband crashed out because he didn't feel like he was getting to bond with her. I started exclusively breastfeeding around that time and honestly didnt see the big deal. Baby and I left for a few days and when we got back home, everything was fine. He was extremely hands-on. He helped with my meals, her bedtime, bath, stories.....for a few weeks it was great. Then he randomly sounds depressed af. He says our lo is better off without him, he wants to sleep all day , he asks me not to watch tv then tried playing a video game. He refused to reply to me when i asked any follow-up questions. Then he woke up our baby trying to race me to the bathroom first thing in the morning . He's doing a weird mix of crying, trying, and giving up. Im starting to feel like I cant handle him not being able to handle life with baby and just want to be alone. Are there resources for men?

Feeding

My son is coming up to five months and I just started giving him oatmeal and rice cereal. When can you start trying veggies or fruits? I only give him the oatmeal or rice cereal once a day right now which is what the paediatrician had said to do. I’m just curious to when anybody tried anything else with their kids cause my son eats a lot of formula and he’s VERY curious when I eat.

Really bothered by this

A friend posted this and it really bothers me because that is exactly how she parents her kid, and it's rather unfortunate because when our kids hang out together, her kid has a meltdown at least 5x within an hour. We have know them for years and it's only gotten worse. My kids will concede to hers, because they don't want to see their friend crying, but it sucks because they give up so much of their toys and enjoyment to keep the peace. We aren't hanging out as much anymore but it's rather sad to think she doesn't intervene more in her child tantrums and just let's it slide

My 2 year old won’t eat nothing but snacks

Is this normal ? He won’t even try anything I eat .. he really only like pizza fries and spaghetti… nuggets and snacks bananas some other fruit but like anything else he won’t eat if try but I don’t want to force him I’m just I feel like bad I mean he isn’t losing weight I breastfeed mostly still

Is this normal

Let’s say you’re at a softplay with your 2 year old, and some friends & their toddlers.
You buy your 2 year old a kids meal - chicken nuggets, beans, and chips. They’re very happy with it and have almost eaten it all.
They’re sat at the table, fork in hand, consistently eating, and have one chicken nugget left.
Your adult friend comes over from behind you, picks up the last chicken nugget, and eats it.
There was no indication that your child wasn’t going to eat it, and they didn’t ask. They just took it with no warning and ate it right in front of you and your toddler.
How you reacting?