Trying my best

Honestly I'm in the exact same boat, I've got a 22 month old and I'm 36 weeks pregnant and I've have literally no sex drive since having my first, I feel bad but I really am just never in the mood. I also still ocascially breastfeed my first and am planning to with my second, so can't see it getting any better if it is linked to breastfeeding. Luckily my partner is very supportive and just praying it comes back eventually. My little girl also still wakes up during the night so I haven't had a full night sleep in nearly 2 years, which prob don't help.

Hey! Some advice if youd take it. He needs to not initiate sex in that way. I massively struggle with sex drive after kids, and it feels disgusting having someone just touch me when we need emotional connection first.
A good chat over dinner and some laughs over a week and it'll massively help!

Yeah you too! It is hard balancing everything! But thank you, hoping the same for you too 🫶

A few things- what does he contribute towards caring for his child? What's their sleep like? If you're exhausted from working, doing everything at home and being up half the night that's not a lack of sex drive or a hormone issue that's a lack of energy because you're burned out. Speak to him, I spoke to mine to say stop jumping me right after bedtime I need a minute to change gears 😂 and he listened and that helped! Also, doing it with the baby in the room is a icky to me, especially as old as yours is, I definitely wouldn't be able to get in the mood in your situation.

why don't you give blow jobs instead? I found that it really helps since having kids with no sex drive. He still gets his release and you don't have to force yourself to have sex

You 100% dont need to try more! Ive been there myself.
Your partner needs to be understanding, your giving your baby the best start in life by breastfeeding and it does for some lower sex drive.
What helped with me and my partner is i talked to him openly and then asked him to be more loving with small touches that dont always lead to sex! Like kissing my forehead or just cuddling me, personally this for me made me feel more drawn towards him as when he literally launched himself on me I just was like urrggghhh no 😒 and it put me back even more!
Honestly thought dont pressure yourself into doing anything your not fully comfortable with x

It's the hormones 😅 I'm the same. I was an absolute menace before having my littlest and it's still not back to normal at 17 months. I was the same when I was breastfeeding my older kids too until they weaned (they're now 12 and 10) x

Can totally relate. Your feelings are totally understandable and it's ok to not have sex. This is a phase in your relationship that will pass. Have your periods come back? After my first I found my period coming back really helped with my sex drive but it didn't return until 21 months. 12 months pp with my second and I have no interest whatsoever, breastfeeding and cosleeping, sleep deprived. I don't want to be wanted and touched by yet another human I just want time by myself alone in a dark room 😅 my partner is very understanding and patient with it.

It’s due to breastfeeding. That said, you can also get blood work and see what’ you’re lacking you’d be surprised how that can affect your sex drive.

Taking pre AND probiotics can help bring your sex drive back
Maca root tea also helps
Both of those options you have to consistently take them for a good 3-4weeks to notice specific changes

Exact boat down to a T. Our sons 15 months as well, while he doesn’t sleep in our room I find it hard to feel in the mood because I’m always so run down, between insomnia, mom duty and wife duty I just don’t have the energy most days. We maybe have sex 2-3 times a month. I think it just comes as things get easier when babies get older. My fiance jumps at every and any opportunity to flirt or try to get things going damn near daily, I just couldn’t be bothered most of the time my minds elsewhere. He understands though and makes a world of a difference