New order

Love placing yoto orders, we’ve got 2 yotos one for out 9 month old and just bought another for our 3 year old for his 4th birthday. If anyone’s been waiting for the dinosaur that pooped series it’s been added back on to the Yoto site but is in the last chance to buy category so won’t be on there for long!

We love the Julia Donaldson books and are waiting for the smed and the smoos to come back so we can complete our collection. What yotos are your kids favourites?

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Always waiting for older sister.

I am here to vent.

For 10 years now I have been hearing things like “you cant get married before your sister”, “you cant have more than your sister”, “we can’t do that for you because we haven’t given the same / similar thing to your sister”. I’m so sick of this. I am in my 30s now. She a couple years older than me. Always got more than me / the more expensive things and I was ok with that because she is older.

Now it’s too much. She had a big expensive wedding, I never had a wedding as I got pregnant 5 years after waiting years for her to marry. She married straight after she found out I was pregnant.

I was having another baby unexpextedly after my first and I was crusified for it beyond any of you readers can understand. I was shouted at and treated terribly while being 8 months pregnant by my own parents as she was not pregnant yet.

They continued to treat me badly after the baby was born for a year.

After her baby was born everyone decided to forget how much they hated me.

Please be aware I never wanted children like this. And I feel terrible about myself everyday because of it. I wish I had the pride she had by being married before kids but I will never have that. I blame them for not having what I wanted.

Now my kids are older I want an extension on my house (my dad is a builder and gets cheap rates it would save us thousands). Well it has to be her house first even though he has spend all his money on her ground floor extension and garden. (now she wants second story extension).

I would do it without him and try to get the cheapest rate myself but he will probably act like I have betrayed him by employing someone else to do the work. It needs to be done now as kids will go to school soon.

I’m just very pissed off but I am not surprised obviously after everything.

My partner is very angry we can’t do what we want especially as I used all my money to buy this house.

Nursery bill

Would your nursery bill be adjusted to a slightly lower price if you made the nursery aware of your child having a day off for a holiday?

MIL and childcare for baby no 2

Current scenario, my MIL has my 19mo at my house one day a week. For baby no 2, the thought of her coming over every Monday whilst I’m on mat leave gives me so much anxiery. Hormones, trying to bond with baby and also being able to have an extra day with my older son (I work full time at the mo) is really important to me, but I know it will cause issues.

Has anyone else navigated this? And what did you do?

Nesting

I’m 33+2, I keep seeing reels about how people are like psychotically nesting in the third trimester, the whole expectation vs reality shtick showing people scrubbing ovens and wiping skirting boards… am I the only one not getting that..? I begrudgingly did my normal weekly clean yesterday and hoovered and mopped and it nearly killed me off, and I certainly didn’t do it for fun.

Overreacting,hormones or lack of support

So unsure what I want from this post perhaps only expressing my feeling to someone in same situation.

I gave birth through an emergency c-section 2 weeks ago. My husband felt like he would help and support how he did with our first baby in the hospital.

However once I got home the second day he simply gone work and expected me to deal with a baby and a toddler while I was hardly standing on my feet. This is not the worst part because I have my mum around and she can help. However I feel that the lack of support is really getting me and I feel most of the time sad and crying. I tried expressing my feeling to him that I need some support and that is not my mum’s duty to help with everything however he gets very angry and shouts like is my fault I gone through c-section and that I am not yet fully recovered to do everything.

He only blames me for everything and says he is sick of me acting like this all the time and complaining. He hardly wakes up in the night for a change and I am exclusively breastfeeding so I am very tight as baby constantly eating.

When it comes to play with my toddler he prefers playing games with his little brother which came over at the worst times ever to look for a job and stays with us in the meantime. Is so uncomfortable to not having space in your own house or feel ashamed to breastfeed comfortably because is someone else too. Hope he finds a job and moves away soon as it almost feels like I am nit allowed to talk about him just close mouth and respect him and move forward.

On top of that my husband seems and sounds very aggressive not sure if is just my hormones or he just changed and doesn’t wanna help at all.

Unsure what to do at this point just wanna recover soon and be me again.

Anyone one else on same or similar boat? 🥺

Ok so he’s gaged and spit back every baby food I have tried but if I put solid food in this teether he loves it 🤦🏻‍♀️

I’m so serious right now I tried banana baby food? No he spit it out and gagged like it was poison but fresh banana in the teether? He ate it and I had to fill it 3 more times 🤦🏻‍♀️he’s eaten steamed broccoli and steamed carrots like this too! Also likes using a raw carrot or celery for teething stick 😂 he has an obsession with peanut butter. Idk is this bad???? He has 2 bottom front teeth and looks like the top are coming in next and he’s always drooling and chewing on his fingers 🤦🏻‍♀️. I don’t know if I’m doing something wrong