Is shyness normal?

Sorry if this is a silly question my toddler has entered a shy phase. When we visit family or friends we don't see often, or we're out in public and there are strangers nearby who approach or interact with us he becomes very shy and will cry and reach out for me or if Im already holding him will hide/bury his head in my chest. He will open up eventually but it can take some time. I understand it with strangers but he can even be the same around his grandparents. My mum will be collecting him from nursery next week for the first time, while me and his dad go out for a date night. I'm worried he might get upset or act shy when she collects him like he doesn't know her and it will look bad on her

I'm only asking if it's normal as all other toddlers in our family seem very confident around everybody but my son isn't that way. He is also very shy when we go to events or playgroups. He loves nursery but if I take him to a toddler play or soft play etc he just won't leave my side or interact with the other children/staff

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My boy is the same and always has been. He's always very serious when strangers try to interact with him in public, he won't consider smiling or waving at them. Most of the time, he stares with a poker face or will occasionally cry. He takes a while to open up and doesn't always, it seems that some adults just scare him more than others. He doesn't play or interact with other children unless he knows them, but I'd say that's fairly normal at this age still, they do more parallel play than interactive play. The biggest perk that comes with it (for me) is that he doesn't run away from me anywhere 😂 I can see that he's slowly becoming more confident, but I think this is just a part of who he is and I'm okay with that. I wasn't the most confident child either.

My daughter is the same. Shes always shy around my dad and then warms up after abit. I think its something theyve acknowledged themselves. I feel as if my daughter has become aware that there is an emotion of “ shy “ and likes to be shy sometimes

My daughter is shy now but wasn't always like that. I'm not sure if it's a phase but I'm really shy so she might be the same!

Same! He doesn't see his grandparents really frequently and so is shy at first when he does. However as soon as we distract him for a bit he opens up. There is also a lady at our local shop and every time she says hello to him he cries so bad 🤣

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