Feeling burnt out not enjoying motherhood.

How old is your little one? This also resonated with me for months... Mine was 2 months premature and it was a long 2 months of not reaching any milestones, no development, no responsiveness... just constant feeding, fussing and contact napping. Feeding was a huge stress because she struggled to put on weight and is tiny. It is exhausting to another level. I used to sit up at night crying thinking why did I do this? I don't want this.
The moment I was playing with her and she actually smiled back... I felt like something shifted in me and I actually started to enjoy it!
She turned 3 months (corrected age) yesterday and I noticed a massive change last week... Actually napping and sleeping well... Although she is formula fed...
What I'm saying is... it's a process and eventually you will get there. Hang in there... You've got this. It's okay not to enjoy it right now, at some stage when things get easier and they will get easier, you will start to enjoy motherhood

Thanks hun. Mine is now 9 months old and so the struggle has really been for that long. 😫

My baby is 9 months on friday. And although she is formula fed she is on the go constantly and its exhausting. She only naps if contact napping too.

I have moments when I enjoy it but mostly im overwhelmed and tired.


Not really sure what my reply is for other than to say you're not alone x

Thanks. It’s so tough at times isn’t it? Does yours sleep through the night at least? No sleep during the night and no rest during the day can get to you emotionally. When will this get better? 🫩😫

She does if i co sleep. Which means I dont sleep well. If she is in the cot.it doesnt go so well. We are trying to get her in the cot so I can have a little space overnight...

Can't answer when it gets better, sorry lovely x

I feel the same at the moment. And I have a toddler too. It is a lot but, only way is go to baby groups when you can. You have other babies & mums around, nice distraction. But yeah, you’re probably just worn/burnt out. Not getting enough rest. Sleep is soo important, when your feeling like that, makes things a lot more worse. Mine is 10 months and definitely find it to entertain him most of the days, just draining. xo

Have recently been going through a period of feeling the same, my LO is 9 months this weekend. She doesn’t seem to want to crawl and only ever wants to stand so I’m constantly holding her up if she doesn’t play on her own. It is overwhelming and I feel mentally exhausted a lot at the moment. But I keep reminding myself that she’s thriving and learning and I won’t feel like this all the time. I read a quote from a mum that said “I love being a mum always but I hate parts of motherhood” and she is totally right!
It’s comforting to know there are many feeling the same and I hope it gets better for everyone!♥️

This was my first. Never slept unless it was contact. Always needing to be held. From 5 months I couldn't put him down and do the laundry, make dinner, etc. Never slept longer than 2.5 hours until about 9 months when he decided to sleep 4hrs, wake up for 2hrs and then sleep 2, want to be fed, then sleep another hour.
It doesn't last forever, I promise you this. At 2 I could leave my son in his play area and make dinner with minor interruptions. At 3 he sleeps through 8/9 hrs unless he has to potty (which he finally started doing himself as long as the nightlights are on).

I completely understand this I’m 100% with you my daughter is 8 months and she doesn’t always nap that long during the day and she’s always up on me I can’t put her down at all like I put her down she’ll scream on the top of her lungs she can fully crawl but never wants to I have to bring her everywhere with me bathroom, kitchen, living room so basically she attached to me 24/7 she even sleeps next to me she takes my food and drinks even when she have her own ofc her father is around but I’m doing the most work everytime when I found out I was pregnant again I knew it would only get harder I feel you on being burnt out all I want is a little breather but I don’t get it and makes me hate being a mother all I do is ask for help but I don’t get it that’s why me and bd fights all the time

my baby was like this for a few days what worked was putting her in the pram and rocking her, she didnt get used to it and still sleeps alone at night in her next to me but during the day or whenever actually they might just need that

I completely understand! This season can be so tough, especially when your LO’s sleep pattern and habits mean you feel like you’re never getting a break. I’m a mum of 6, midwife, child & family health nurse and sleep consultant. More than happy to give you some tips if you like. DM me x